Hi @Bowerbird 11,
I was diagnoses 29 October, second surgery 6 November. Pain medication and an ice pack wrapped in a hand-towel helped a lot. Although very stiff and sore at first, I followed all of the post-surgery daily exercise instructions to keep my arm mobile and the stiffness has completely gone. The incision is now fully closed, flattened and pain-free. It took time, but it's remarkable how the body adjusts and heals. I also took soluble vitamin c with zinc, which I think sped up the healing, as did Giovene Specialised Scar Formula. I hope that's of some help in the meantime.
The BC nurse in my area must be very busy as I have not met her. I have communicated by email and phone a couple of times, with days going by before I get a response. A bit disappointing. Could have done with the support immediately after surgery and during treatment decision-making.
The mental stress, sleeplessness, multiple tests and procedures continue - but it's definitely getting a bit easier to manage. This forum has been very helpful. Good luck.