Hi @BowerBird11 and welcome, though none of us wanted to join in the first instance. I don't have ILC, I had IDC
Please be aware that there is a separeate, closed group within the forum for those with ILC. If you look under Groups, you should find it, and be able to ask to join. That will then depend on one of the group admin being online to accept you to the group.
ILC does have it's own quite separate issues to IDC, so I was pleased to see that group formed.
Please feel comfortable to come and ask questions, vent, whatever you need. You'll find a very supportive group of predominantly women, with some men, and increasing numbers of partners.
Take care