Due to have a biopsy

Hi @June1952
Thanks so much for reaching out.  I will certainly look into joining the Carers group on here. Thanks for the info  <3

Hello Denise (@Samalex).  Have you joined the Carers group on here ?
Your Mum is amazing, 99, how wonderful.  My Mum passed at 95, before she got the prized telegram from the Queen. 
Just take things one step at a time.  Keep a list beside you and as things pop into your head write them down - no question is too small or too silly.  Don't leave any appointment until you have received answers.
Life is tough but us women do manage to get through it all.
Thinking of you  💖

So sorry to see you here, @Samalex - Gosh - you've been dealt a nasty set of cards over the years.   All your emotions are 100% totally normal, as the girls have said ....  tho it might be an idea to chat with your GP about getting some counselling - or ring the Helpline (the phone number is at the top of the page) tomorrow & chat with them ...  

Whereabouts are you? State/Town?  If you add it to your Profile, we may have members in the area who can point you to specific services in your area.  Also, if you live in a regional/rural area, you can claim on travel costs & some accomodation costs if you have to travel for your surgery and/or appointments.

I am also the sole carer of my husband who also cancer & dementia .... After caring for him thru his first diagnosis 11 years ago - I thought I 'knew it all' about cancer - but when I was diagnosed 4 years ago, only then did I realise how the diagnosis truly affected me!  He was diagnosed again 12 months ago.   Are you & your husband signed up with My Aged Care (I am guessing that you may be both over 65?)  Have either of you been assessed for a Home Care Package?  My husband was finally given a Level 4 Home Care package late last year & we've been able to get help around the home and get aircon and other 'niceties' taken care of out of the package as well, as the funds allow.  

Do you have someone to attend your appointments with you - both as support and a 2nd set of ears?  Maybe record the meetings on your phone as well, as it is easy to miss bit as there is a lot going on.  I did.  I hope you DO have some good family and friends as support. 

That is Terrific to see how well your Mum went after her diagnosis - always good to see!  Try & keep yourself busy in between appointments & the lead up to your surgery, doing things you love doing, to keep your mind busy.  Tho this covid thing is wrecking a lot of our outdoor activities ..... I hope you DO get time for yourself, as looking after your husband takes a lot out of every day xx. We have a 'Carers Corner' where we chat about Carers Stuff, if you'd like to join it .... 

You are still very much in shock - but WELL DONE YOU, for reaching out, early, as you have.  We will do our best to offer you support and information as you need it ... and once your surgery is done & you know your 'game plan' - things really do 'settle down' a bit.

take care, and all the best for your ongoing appointments xx

Thank you both - @Abbydog and @Julez1958 for your replies.

Hi @Samalex
Its normal to cry and to grieve the end
 of your “ bulletproof self” after receiving a breast cancer diagnosis.
And once I learnt that 1 in 8 women in Australia will be diagnosed with breast cancer I went from “ why me” to “ why not me”? Life’s not fair but we have to deal with the cards we are given .
Later on when things have settled down you may want to listen  to the podcasts by Dr Charlotte Tottman referred to in the “announcement “ further up this page .
She was a psychologist specialising in treating cancer patients who got breast cancer herself.
Because the psychological impacts of the diagnosis are important too .
The fact that your mum survived the diagnosis and has gone on to have such a good innings should be grounds for looking at the glass as half full.
You will feel a lot more settled once you have a treatment plan.
And don’t be shy to post any questions on here, it is a place where we have all done the journey in one way or another.
Take care .
🌺

Dea Samalex,
It may not be as bad as you are expecting. Fingers crossed it is at least early.
You may feel better when you actually know more details. And possibly a plan too.
You do seem to have had a lot thrown at you, caring and helping others.
I was 61 on diagnosis, in Feb 2020. I had the Mastectomy, Chemo, R/T and daily medications for 5-10 yrs.
I managed the treatments quite well. The response people have is very variable.
My Breast surgeon and Oncologist, were excellent letting me know all I needed.
After your biopsy result, if it is cancerous. You will be most likely ordered a whole body bone scan and Abdominal and Chest 
CT scan, to see if there has been spread to other areas. And of course if you have the lumps removed, you will have more information. One step at a time. I'm sure you will have questions. Keep paper and pen handy, and write them down as they occur to you.
I wish you all the best.

Thank you so much for your lovely kind words Afraser! I will try to gain some strength from your positive vibes xx

Dear @Samalex

Oh dear, you have had such a bad run. Life is often not fair. Difficult and scary as it is however, your mother has survived bc and so can you. I hope some of the others on this site, which is an excellent place to seek advice and a great deal of understanding, can advise you on how to access some family support as you have a great deal on your plate. Your doctor is aware of at least some of your circumstances so think about what you need to ask about most of all - what treatment is likely, how you can apply for assistance (a breast care nurse would be a good start) and what emotional support may be available - this is not just a physical disease, it can be difficult to deal with mentally particularly when you have many responsibilities.  Take every bit of assistance you can, it will help you cope. Most people find that their reservoirs of strength and determination are much deeper than they ever thought. Best wishes.