Dear @Samalex
Oh dear, you have had such a bad run. Life is often not fair. Difficult and scary as it is however, your mother has survived bc and so can you. I hope some of the others on this site, which is an excellent place to seek advice and a great deal of understanding, can advise you on how to access some family support as you have a great deal on your plate. Your doctor is aware of at least some of your circumstances so think about what you need to ask about most of all - what treatment is likely, how you can apply for assistance (a breast care nurse would be a good start) and what emotional support may be available - this is not just a physical disease, it can be difficult to deal with mentally particularly when you have many responsibilities. Take every bit of assistance you can, it will help you cope. Most people find that their reservoirs of strength and determination are much deeper than they ever thought. Best wishes.