Oh Vivienne Vanessa, I was so sorry to read your post, you have such a lot to deal with at the moment. You will find such a lot of support and information on this site, I'm so glad to you have found us. I'm not your age but sadly there are many wonderful women in this forum who are and I'm sure you will hear from them too.
I also went through several years of IVF so completely understand the roller coaster of emotions which comes with fertility treatment. It's wonderful that you have the chance to have a family in the future.
Things will move quickly and you will feel you have no control. Make sure you order the BCNA My Journey Kit - it is full of clear, easy to understand information including a booklet for our partners. My husband really struggled and spoke with a BCNA counsellor which helped. It also has a record to jot down upcoming appointments.
I kept a notebook and wrote down every question I thought of, no matter how stupid. I took it to all my appointments because I could guarantee I'd forget to ask something with the information overload!! It really helps to have someone with you.
It seems impossible now, but you will feel better once you have surgery booked and a treatment plan in place.
I had a left nipple sparing mastectomy with immediate silicon implant 5 months ago. I was fortunate that the 3 sentinel nodes taken were clear so chemo wasn't needed.
Please let us know how you are doing. We are all here for you. Sending a hug, Jane xx