All Alone

Hello @ayrhaven welcome to our online forum.  I am sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer and that your husband has recently had a stroke.  Such a stressful time for both of you.   Dont hesitate to call our helpline on 1800 500 258 to speak with a cancer nurse for information and or support.  We are open 7 days a week including over Easter.   Wishing you all the best with your surgery on Wednesday.

@ayrhaven you aren’t alone, sending love and hugz xx

Hello @ayrhaven
You are never really alone now that you have reached out to this network of very helpful ladies who know what you are going through on many levels.
As has been said, reach out and allow people to help you as you would do to help others.
My goodness, 3200 acres is huge - but what a nice area you live in.
Good that you were able to get hubby into care as that takes one load off your mind, you know he is safe.  A friend needs her hubby in care but with the current virus situation no-one is taking people here.
On a personal level, reach out so others can be at the end of the phone for you.  It is a difficult situation at the moment but you will get through it as you've shown your resilience in what you said above.
I will send you a private message.  (Check the top right hand corner, the icon to the right of your user name).

Best wishes @ayrhaven 

@ayrhaven Happy Easter to you and everyone else.  Good luck with your surgery.  You have been tested by a lot of events in your life which has made you stronger and resilient.  

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Best wishes for your upcoming surgery 

Hi All, Even though I am pretty low at the moment and worried about my surgery on Wednesday, I would like to wish everybody a Happy Easter.  It is very hard not being able to be with family at this time but if we can get through BC we can get through COVID-19.  

Hi @ayrhaven,
So sorry for your diagnosis and challenging home situation, plus Covid 19 to complicate everything! Excellent advice from others above. I'd just like to add that your tears and anxiety are absolutely normal - the unknown and waiting is the worst. Even though I do still have sad moments sometimes, my fearful imaginings were unfounded and the reality of my BC active treatment was that I was very well cared, and I'm sure you will be too. Best wishes.x

It is overwhelming and comforting to know people really do care and talking about my life to some people does help me.  Over the past 3 1/2 years I have been tested in many ways.  When I had my 4x4 bike accident 3 plus years ago, I suffered 10 cracked (nearly half of what we have in our body) and a fractured eye socket which is still being repaired, that's when my outlook on life changed.  What I don't do today, I do tomorrow, it's not going away until you do it.  When my husband had his stroke that also changed our lives.  I became full time carer. I know I will get through this but it is hard to take in when your husband can't be with you.  He is a private person and at the moment all he is saying to me is,  You'll be right.  My husband
was the one with the farming background, so my learning skills have really been tested, he paid all the bills, and made the big decisions.  Thankfully with friends and neighbors in Casterton I have got through it.  I chose not to tell his mum and dad because they are likely to tell me to sell and the more people tell me to sell the more determined I am going to prove to them a women can run just under 3,200 acres and be full time carer.  This is just a hiccup in our already complicated life.
At the moment I am crying every night, I am very much a thinker and all that I am worried about at the moment is what will happen to my husband and me.  Knowing people like me have and are going through this is comforting.  I am not alone even if it does feel like it   Thankyou  As the saying is I AM STRONG, I AM INVINCIBLE AND I AM A WOMEN

Dear @ayrhaven,
Nothing to add to the info and thoughts from our fellow network members above, but

Best wishes from jennyss in Western NSW