Depression

hi jacqui,

you have expressed yourself honestly, it is ok to feel the way you do and be scared of cancer coming back, plus maybe feeling a little lost.. like " where to now, and feeling alone" now active treatment is finished. you have been through an ordeal, that will " never be  over, " as kate says.

  maybe you could have a little celebration,( or a big celebration), or go to a retreat for a few days.

 maybe spend some time in  a quiet, reflective place like by the ocean, or in a leafy green park, by a pond, or on a mountain top. etc.  

 life HAS changed and you are not be the same as you were, mentally, physically, or spiritually.

it is definitely an ordeal to go through, so give yourself a pat on the back for making it so far, and cross your fingers all goes ok from this time on. take some time to adjust to the new changes. learning to live in the " now" and accepting reality, has been a lesson i had to learn since my BC diagnosis. 

could you take some time off to visit your partner in the UK, for a small holiday perhaps? the answers will come to you. all the best, kathy.

hi jacqui,

you have expressed yourself honestly, it is ok to feel the way you do and be scared of cancer coming back, plus maybe feeling a little lost.. like " where to now, and feeling alone" now active treatment is finished. you have been through an ordeal, that will " never be  over, " as kate says.

  maybe you could have a little celebration,( or a big celebration), or go to a retreat for a few days.

 maybe spend some time in  a quiet, reflective place like by the ocean, or in a leafy green park, by a pond, or on a mountain top. etc.  

 life HAS changed and you are not be the same as you were, mentally, physically, or spiritually.

it is definitely an ordeal to go through, so give yourself a pat on the back for making it so far, and cross your fingers all goes ok from this time on. take some time to adjust to the new changes. learning to live in the " now" and accepting reality, has been a lesson i had to learn since my BC diagnosis. 

could you take some time off to visit your partner in the UK, for a small holiday perhaps? the answers will come to you. all the best, kathy.

Hi Jacqui,

Wow!!! i can remember exactly how you are feeling!!!

My husband is the most amazing guy in the world and he stood by me through thick and thin. He had to endure things a husband shouldn't have to see or do. They still have no idea what you go through though. Although they see it physically with their eyes they have no idea what;s going on inside.

I fell in a heap when it had all finished. I was strong and very positive until it all finished and I felt like I was completely on my own. I never saw a counsellor until I had walked away from treatment and hospitals. What a reality check it is.

My husband and I had a really big fight, screaming at one another, Something we had never done before. He yelled at me and said " It's over!" to which i replied "No it's not! It will never be over."

I don't think he realised how emothinally wrecked I was. Yes you worry every day and with every pain that you feel that you have cancer again, but it does get easier. I know you have probably heard that time and time again but it is true.

AS for your husband you are so right when you say, he is sick of hearing about cancer. It really does rule your world!! He will come around. You obviously love each other very much. He showed this by sticking around when times got tough,

Try and stay positive, I know it is hard at this stage but you truly have to keep on going. For your kids sake and your grandchildren and more importantly for you!Take time for yourslef, shout yourself special things that you might not ordianarily do. Eat that whole block of chocolate to yourself!

I am always at the other end of the keyboard if you need a chat.

Keep smiling Jacqui and chin up. things will get better.

Kate x

Hi Jacqui,

Wow!!! i can remember exactly how you are feeling!!!

My husband is the most amazing guy in the world and he stood by me through thick and thin. He had to endure things a husband shouldn't have to see or do. They still have no idea what you go through though. Although they see it physically with their eyes they have no idea what;s going on inside.

I fell in a heap when it had all finished. I was strong and very positive until it all finished and I felt like I was completely on my own. I never saw a counsellor until I had walked away from treatment and hospitals. What a reality check it is.

My husband and I had a really big fight, screaming at one another, Something we had never done before. He yelled at me and said " It's over!" to which i replied "No it's not! It will never be over."

I don't think he realised how emothinally wrecked I was. Yes you worry every day and with every pain that you feel that you have cancer again, but it does get easier. I know you have probably heard that time and time again but it is true.

AS for your husband you are so right when you say, he is sick of hearing about cancer. It really does rule your world!! He will come around. You obviously love each other very much. He showed this by sticking around when times got tough,

Try and stay positive, I know it is hard at this stage but you truly have to keep on going. For your kids sake and your grandchildren and more importantly for you!Take time for yourslef, shout yourself special things that you might not ordianarily do. Eat that whole block of chocolate to yourself!

I am always at the other end of the keyboard if you need a chat.

Keep smiling Jacqui and chin up. things will get better.

Kate x