Just want to talk and get some advice

@cathrine

I am very happy to have you join my club. I NEVER ask for help. I was raised to be very independent "do it yourself, girl".

Like you I was so envious of other women in my town who had friends and family rally around them with help and meals. My prickly, standoffish, "nose in the air" manner probably put many people off. 

I have no family in town, that's just the way it is. And I live remotely with little or no support services.

Oh people always asked how I was and I realised that there was care and concern. What I did not realise was, is that others saw me as a strong, coping, independent woman who got on with the job. That's the persona I presented outwardly while I was falling apart on the inside.

This forum became my "help". The care, love, support and understanding got me through this very difficult time.

Having got through the last two years have I learnt to ask for help? No, it is just not in my nature. What I have learnt is that there is no right way or wrong way in coping. 

My very Warm (oh so very warm!!) Kimberley wishes to you.

Annie