It's not what people want to
hear, particularly younger people, but we aren't all that good at preparing people for the big things in life - relationships, ending relationships, parenting (not just pregnancy and childbirth) and yes, death. That's the thing that's way out there, far beyond our ken and not happening for a long, long time. Until suddenly it might be. Understanding my death better was a major good outcome of bc for me. Not because I am terminal from bc (I'm not, cross fingers) but because it's an inevitable part of the joy of being alive.