Struggling to cope
Hi everyone, im one week diagnosed with 5cm triple negative stage 2 grade 3 breast cancer. I’m completely freaking out but I’m really struggling to see past anything but dark thoughts.CT scan showe...
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@Klp Hang in there my lovely. We are all here for you & what you're feeling is completely normal and yes, you CAN beat this. Im so glad you have found us here as all your questions, fears & feelings have all been experienced by any number of us. We will be able to give you personal advice of what we have all been through & no question is a dumb question! Cancer is like another language. So much to learn, acronmyns, words & terms you have never heard of before!!
You do have so much to deal with already having a newborn & a 6 y.o. but use them to give you the strength to fight & think positive. Try to get as much help from family & friends in regard to meals, housework & dont be too proud as everyone wants to help.
I found a McGrath nurse via the website & she has been great to answer all my dumb questions. They can counsel you & your family also & help you emotionally & medically. I speak to mine over the phone as she lives an hour or so away from me.
Get info/brochures from good sources like BCNA, Cancer council & medical waiting rooms. Try not to Dr Google as that can be confusing. Take someone with you to all appointments as a second set of ears or record the appointment & take lots of notes.
FACT: Stress fuels cancer so try not to let it take hold of you as it wont help you mentally or physically...easier said than done. Things will constantly change so try to focus on what you DO know & not what MAY happen as the worse may never come. Again, easier said than done. I worried over every possible outcome, mastectomy v lumpectomy, chemo, rad......but I only ended up having a lumpectomy & a very easy 3 weeks of rad. I also was gene tested & that was negative. Its good that they are testing you as that is information you will need for your children. Its also good to have that test early on as the outcome could effect your treatment going forward.
Your medical team will guide you. Try to focus on the next step & keep ticking off each box. We will be here to help you. Wishing you love, prayers, strength & lots of hugs. xxxx
You do have so much to deal with already having a newborn & a 6 y.o. but use them to give you the strength to fight & think positive. Try to get as much help from family & friends in regard to meals, housework & dont be too proud as everyone wants to help.
I found a McGrath nurse via the website & she has been great to answer all my dumb questions. They can counsel you & your family also & help you emotionally & medically. I speak to mine over the phone as she lives an hour or so away from me.
Get info/brochures from good sources like BCNA, Cancer council & medical waiting rooms. Try not to Dr Google as that can be confusing. Take someone with you to all appointments as a second set of ears or record the appointment & take lots of notes.
FACT: Stress fuels cancer so try not to let it take hold of you as it wont help you mentally or physically...easier said than done. Things will constantly change so try to focus on what you DO know & not what MAY happen as the worse may never come. Again, easier said than done. I worried over every possible outcome, mastectomy v lumpectomy, chemo, rad......but I only ended up having a lumpectomy & a very easy 3 weeks of rad. I also was gene tested & that was negative. Its good that they are testing you as that is information you will need for your children. Its also good to have that test early on as the outcome could effect your treatment going forward.
Your medical team will guide you. Try to focus on the next step & keep ticking off each box. We will be here to help you. Wishing you love, prayers, strength & lots of hugs. xxxx