Hi Tripple Qld,
I got my 10 year grade 3/ triple 2cm/ no nodes/ diagnosed on my first mammogram aged 45 survivor badge last September and celebrated in China with a bunch of great dragon boat friends.
On my diagnosis, I was older than you and had 2 high school girls and my own business I had to to keep running through chemo and rads when diagnosed which was quite stressful at the time, as self employed people do not get any support but in a way kept me focussed on other things than me. Supportive Hubby, but no rellies around either. As you say you want children and don't know what is ahead of you. You didn't mention if you had a prospective father in mind!
Firstly, you should listen to the doctor's prognosis which although isn't great for the first 5 years looks a whole lot rosier than the other types after 10 years. Meanwhile this won't be useful for family planning -as 10 years is leaving it just a little bit late!
When you have a better picture of things sit back and look at your life and support system. Many women have unwanted children, many children are neglected. Some women have children who they dearly love and the mother dies suddenly unexpectedly anyway but life goes on. I remember my oncologist giving me survival rates then piping up - that there was a 2 % chance I could die of anything else in the next 10 years anyway! If we all worried that much the population would start rapidly declining.
No one really knows what the future holds for us, but if you really want a child and have good support/partner around and are then blessed with conceiving via IVF after all you go through with breast cancer why not follow your heart?
Mimsi :)
