Thank you all for your comments and replies.
We have had some good news recently, with the PET-CT scan coming back clear. She had axillary surgery to remove the lymph nodes on that side, and once she is recovered we will start chemo.
We feel a lot better, and we can see some parts of an overall plan starting to come together.
I am going to be coordinating the help of our support group of family and friends. Trying to keep them involved without putting too much on any one of them, especially at the start when everyone wants to jump in to help.
They are good people. We are lucky to be in a good place with good friends.