@strongtogether It's hard getting that unexpected pathology report back when you're trying to be positive. I had a different type of breast cancer but it was much bigger than first expected and had also spread to the nodes (click on my profile for my history). Your wife will get through it and so will you and the rest of your family - it just takes some time to absorb the shock. There are a number of women on this forum who have had TNBC and I'm sure you will get some more specific support from them but the rest of us are here as well.