Sorry you have to be here @strongtogether but welcome to the forum. Here you will find a group of women and men who totally get what you are going through right now. No question is too silly so if you have any at all fire away. This forum covers a broad spectrum of members ranging in all ages with all different types of Breast Cancers. There are all sorts of threads on this site as well as a bit of humour which help us get through this shit fest of a disease.
I imagine you must both be thinking of all the worst case scenarios at the moment but take a deep breath and your team will formulate the best plan of attack for your wife and don't be afraid to ask as many questions as you need . I myself was triple negative and went through treatment last year and there are quite a few of us on here who are or were, some still going through treatment and others who have finished.
Hopefully you have a great breast care nurse who can guide you in all aspects of what your wife is going through now.
I wish all the best to you both and just remember it is all totally doable. Let us know how you go. Do they have chemo on the table and radiation. Big hugs to you guys xo