Found out this week I have DCIS

Hoping everything went well today. I think for the first few days after surgery you again need to take in the ‘new normal’. Time for further decisions later, now rest and be gentle on yourself. And accept any help offered!

Thinking of you, @Blister. Hoping your post-surgery recovery is okay. Rest up sweetheart xxx I’m 4 weeks out of my mastectomy and still taking it easy. 

@Blister Hope your surgery went well today. Thinking of you & sending love, positive thoughts & prayers your way. Stay strong & be kind to yourself. You got this!! love & hugs xx

@Blister I’m really glad you did 😊. Having those meltdowns and ugly crying sessions is a great way of releasing all that pent up fear and anger. And they’re the best when we don’t feel guilty for having them. It’s true that your family only have the best for you in mind, and will try to downplay it, thinking that will ease things for you. Unfortunately it doesn’t, not with something this big. When I had to go through more surgery, plus radiation etc, I just wanted my parents to allow me to feel scared and acknowledge that fear, because it was definitely valid. I appreciated my dad telling me he knew I was going to beat this, but I really just wanted someone to say to me, you have the right to be shitscared right now. So cry, and yell, and here’s a plate to smash against the wall, because it’s all valid. Luckily, my sister came through and told me to allow my emotions, so I did, and it felt better. She just sat with me and my fear. Then I sat with my fears, and asked myself what exactly was it that I was so afraid of, and whether it was realistic, and what could I do about it. That helped. 

@Anne65, I have bought a book and am writing my questions and things Im being told to do to get ready for my surgery tomorrow, my surgeon is lovely and told me no question is dumb they are all important, I spoke with my Breast Care Nurse today and she is lovely and caught me in the middle of my melt down but we are good now.  Think you have to be a special person to have their job.  I'm glad yours was picked up early as well.  Thank you I'm ready for my surgery tomorrow

Welcome @Blister

Truly stinks to be here but you're in the right place for warmth, understanding and a wealth of knowledge.  That beginning part just after diagnosis is nothing short of unbearable.  The rollercoaster of emotions and your brain continually conjuring up the worst possible scenario it can think of.
The ladies are right, as usual,  it is your show and even though you've been there with somebody who has gone through cancer it's never the same as when it's your name on the top of the results. 
Your hubby must feel like an old pro at this by now, no wonder he's so calm and matter of fact.  
The breast care nurses are the best go between you and the medicos.  They can normally put what they've said into a language us mere mortals can understand and will go in to bat for you if it's ever needed.

There really is no right or wrong way to get through this.  Just do what you need to do be that cry, scream, curse, jump up and down, go into hibernation from everyone else or all of the above.
One day at a time lovely.
Wishing you all the best and lots of hugs. 
xoxoxoxoxox 

@FLClover thank you, well today was the day I had those emotions, from not being able to get the right advice or be told the right person to get the necessary information, to having a bad fat old ugly cry session.  My daughter really came through sat there and held me through it and apologised for forgetting this was happening to me, she was just trying to make things easier for me, she thought.  Have spoke to my lovely Breast Care Nurse, who suggested postponing my procedure, I said no its ok, while I'm not a fan of the hospital thats been chosen, I will go ahead with my surgery tomorrow, she eased my mind, am I a fan of having to sit in an armchair from 6:15am and my possible surgery time of 4pm in the afternoon no but its the way hospitals work these days, no being admitted into the ward before the surgery.  Only time I won't be in the armchair is when they do my ECG, my mammogram to insert Hook Wire and my surgery, it is going to be a long tiring day but I will get through it.  Thanks

It’s hard sometimes for family to hit the right note - too much can look like taking over, too little like not caring! It’s hard on everyone. I found the brisk, practical attitude of professionals helped a lot - stuff to be done, decisions to be made rather than too much reflection - I had plenty of time for that later, when I was much better informed and much surer about myself and what really mattered. And a bit of a melt is therapeutic! Take care, best wishes. 

Thank you everyone for your kind words and thoughts, I have spoken with my Breast Care Nurse today and after having a little melt down am feeling a lot better, not a fan of how things are done at the hospital but it is what it is.  its going to be a long long day tomorrow, most of which will be sitting in an armchair waiting for my surgery, but at least after I get as comfortable bed as the hospital give you.  

Thanks again for all your kind words, advice and support

@Afraser yes they did a bit, I had a talk them to remind them this is my diagnosis, my body my choice, have spent the day having little melt down, spoke with my Breast Care Nurse today by the end I was calmer, so tomorrow I have a very long day ahead.  thanks for your advice