Welcome @Blister
Truly stinks to be here but you're in the right place for warmth, understanding and a wealth of knowledge. That beginning part just after diagnosis is nothing short of unbearable. The rollercoaster of emotions and your brain continually conjuring up the worst possible scenario it can think of.
The ladies are right, as usual, it is your show and even though you've been there with somebody who has gone through cancer it's never the same as when it's your name on the top of the results.
Your hubby must feel like an old pro at this by now, no wonder he's so calm and matter of fact.
The breast care nurses are the best go between you and the medicos. They can normally put what they've said into a language us mere mortals can understand and will go in to bat for you if it's ever needed.
There really is no right or wrong way to get through this. Just do what you need to do be that cry, scream, curse, jump up and down, go into hibernation from everyone else or all of the above.
One day at a time lovely.
Wishing you all the best and lots of hugs.
xoxoxoxoxox