Found out this week I have DCIS
I’m 60 years old and I noticed a slight indentation under my left nipple and a dull ache in my left breast. I was supposed to have a Mammogram in May, but you know COVID happened. Anyway I finally...
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@Blister I’m really glad you did 😊. Having those meltdowns and ugly crying sessions is a great way of releasing all that pent up fear and anger. And they’re the best when we don’t feel guilty for having them. It’s true that your family only have the best for you in mind, and will try to downplay it, thinking that will ease things for you. Unfortunately it doesn’t, not with something this big. When I had to go through more surgery, plus radiation etc, I just wanted my parents to allow me to feel scared and acknowledge that fear, because it was definitely valid. I appreciated my dad telling me he knew I was going to beat this, but I really just wanted someone to say to me, you have the right to be shitscared right now. So cry, and yell, and here’s a plate to smash against the wall, because it’s all valid. Luckily, my sister came through and told me to allow my emotions, so I did, and it felt better. She just sat with me and my fear. Then I sat with my fears, and asked myself what exactly was it that I was so afraid of, and whether it was realistic, and what could I do about it. That helped.
Your emotions will change through each phase. I wish I could tell myself then, what I know now, but of course that’s impossible. The only reason I’m better now is because I went through each stage and allowed it to happen and run its course. Seeing a psychologist has helped an enormous amount. Also, make sure you have a supportive medical team. I can’t put enough emphasis with words on how important that is. If you’re not happy about something and have anxiety, then change it, because it’s your intuition telling you something is wrong. You have every right to voice all your concerns, especially now.
It does sound like tomorrow will be a bit of a long haul. Make sure you have something interesting to read or watch if you can.
It sounds lovely that your daughter is there for you. I remember in my worst period, just crying all day in the bedroom, and my 7 yr old daughter would come in, not say anything, and just hand me tissues. Then she’d kiss me and leave me alone. Bless her, my beautiful girl, she gave me so much motivation to get better.
So they do have your best interest at heart, and are also scared senseless by it all and trying to be brave for you, and suffering in their own way, but it’s good to let people know, as you did, that it is scary and you do need to release and vent somehow. As long and as many times as you need to.
All the best for tomorrow. One thing I can tell you is that you can be deliriously happy again after all this 🍀❤️😘