So that was the big adjustment - being so vigilant when they wanted me to be passive, and realising medical people can be so awful. (My mother was a nurse my father a doctor and we’re so kind)
As for the side effects, it’s true this comes post treatment and my soreness is three weeks post finishing, but not terrible. Hasn’t changed how I function, and my breast just looks worse than it is.
-You will have much time wasted on discussion about non perfumed skin cream when you just need to pick one and put it on all the time
- nobody can make this better for you and the nurses and doctors use empty words and BS. Everything is apparently in your head or not important according to them. Lower your expectations - mine were too high. Just get through with it and be kind to yourself as treatment ends.
- nobody will care about you properly except you and everyone wants you to appear ok. Even those close to you.
So for many the end of radiation marks the end of active treatment - I am relieved and going through the anger of pretending not to be angry and the fact that nobody did help me. I did it all. Because I looked okay absolutely nobody was going to lift a finger.
ive taken a lot of words to say a few things about when people and treatment isn’t what you expected.
I truly hope your team and family are more supportive than mine. And that you sail through rads. It was the radiation it was the stuff I wasnt expecting that hurt most!!
i wish you all the best
xxx
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