Life after treatment

@EarthWalkerLisha Everything you describe is sadly the case for so many! I love my family, but they were quite ignorant when it came to finishing chemo and what I was capable of. My Dad couldnt understand why I wasnt back at work full time..ummm I've been back at work only 3 days a week for 19 months post chemo and only just starting to manage that. I think when this comes from your partner/husband, is extremely disappointing and hurtful. My ex had the same opinion but you would expect that yes? he was shitty because I wouldnt let him help, so was spiteful and made things very hard looking after my teenage kids and doing chemo, it was hell!  My partner however, who we'd only been together 7 months at my 2nd diagnosis and when he was with me, was beautiful. But I have to say, he's from the Cook Islands so has a very hard approach to life which is great most the time but hard when I needed some comforting. Men are strange creatures at the best of times, alot of men don't know how to deal with it full stop. I found communication to be everything otherwise my Partner wouldnt understand the complexity of it all. He is still by my side nearly 3 years later, whilst he says it how it is, is very supportive. 

So I have seen it alot with women what you are saying, sometimes there is a disconnection because you have enough to deal with in terms of treatment and kids etc., I can say to you, you will improve, this is not necessarily the new normal. I thought it was, and I couldnt believe how bad I was. My Surgeon said which is different to the Oncologist that it takes a few years. That's why Im on income protection for 2yrs, finishes in January, but its allowed me a 3 day week. 

I wish you all the best, sounds like it would do him good to hear the complexities of after chemo maybe just the two of you alone, to give him a bigger picture of it all. 

Hugs Melinda xo