@EarthWalkerLisha I do not know where to begin. I am outraged and sad at your husbands opinion on the situation.
How to make him understand that you had no option to have chemo ? The only hope I think if a male gp talked to the two of you together or male oncologist/counsellor. This situation is hard to resolve.
Perhaps if you found a counsellor that dealt with people that have been through cancer and sees the two of you together.
Would he actually go to a session is another thing.
What job does he expect you to have? jobs dont grow on trees.
He may be freaking out about your financial situation.
Its unfair but its happening. The very person you want support from is just not there.
How do you change peoples minds.....I wish I knew.