Cold Cap Experience
You can see I'm back with a vengeance... I was offered cold caps at the same place I would be having the chemo, at no extra cost or runaround so I decided to give it a go if I could tolerate it. I'm ...
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Hey @sister, don't answer if I'm overstepping, but how are the pubes?! Mine started descending Chemo 1, Day 13. No cold cap down there...! On the silver lining side, armpit & leg hair is growing monumentally slowly. Shaved minute bristles only twice this year!
I think we have quite a bit in common. My sister had enormous mental health problems from 15 years old until she died from BC at 47. She shaped and damaged our family beyond compare. She had eating disorders, was highly emotionally manipulative, never treated her lifelong depression, was often deeply vindictive, the cleverest person I've ever known, completely unable to maintain relationships and conduct an independent adult life. I too often held her at arm's length, to preserve my own mental health and in order to care for my own family. She was only two years younger than me. My other sister is six years younger than me, so when my middle sister died she took with her all the memories of my childhood. I grieved the loss of my childhood sister a long time ago, but now that she is truly gone, it is a complex grief.
But how to deal with it with my two kids, her two kids (the youngest of whom is deeply traumatised, highly emotional and very challenging. Poor little dot wouldn't remember a time her mother wasn't sick or dying, and then her next primary caregiver comes down with the same illness 17 mos later? Telling them I had breast cancer was probably the most dreadful moment of my life), my father-in-law, my beloved hard working husband and now my own breast cancer? I've got some heavy duty mental work to do. I hope my psych can help. I have to find myself again. @Afraser you're right, cancer churns up a lot of stuff indeed.
Geeze sorry for the unhinged rant womyn. Woke at 3.45am and have not been able to sleep since. After 7am now...
I think we have quite a bit in common. My sister had enormous mental health problems from 15 years old until she died from BC at 47. She shaped and damaged our family beyond compare. She had eating disorders, was highly emotionally manipulative, never treated her lifelong depression, was often deeply vindictive, the cleverest person I've ever known, completely unable to maintain relationships and conduct an independent adult life. I too often held her at arm's length, to preserve my own mental health and in order to care for my own family. She was only two years younger than me. My other sister is six years younger than me, so when my middle sister died she took with her all the memories of my childhood. I grieved the loss of my childhood sister a long time ago, but now that she is truly gone, it is a complex grief.
But how to deal with it with my two kids, her two kids (the youngest of whom is deeply traumatised, highly emotional and very challenging. Poor little dot wouldn't remember a time her mother wasn't sick or dying, and then her next primary caregiver comes down with the same illness 17 mos later? Telling them I had breast cancer was probably the most dreadful moment of my life), my father-in-law, my beloved hard working husband and now my own breast cancer? I've got some heavy duty mental work to do. I hope my psych can help. I have to find myself again. @Afraser you're right, cancer churns up a lot of stuff indeed.
Geeze sorry for the unhinged rant womyn. Woke at 3.45am and have not been able to sleep since. After 7am now...