Sending you big hugs @melclarity a recurrence is a real fear on this journey. I am only new here but know it is one of the things I fear too. You have a right to be angry and grieve the loss of your breast, no matter how battered it is -it is still your breast!! You have tried so hard to fight this disease but sometimes you need to give yourself a breather to regroup and restore your energy.
I know very well the feelings of uncertainty and just as I can't know exactly how you are feeling, perhaps when you have a date for surgery you will have a plan to hold onto.
You may then be able to say "bring it on" and make plans.
Use every support you can, it may be very therapeutic for your dad to support you, and even if it does bring up stuff for him, you are still his daughter and sounds like he wants to be there for you. It is very easy to go into protector mode (we are mums after all) but sometimes the greatest gift we can give someone is allowing them to be there for us when we need it. Great that your children's father is able to step up for them too.
On a practical note -having things at home arranged so you can reach them without having to reach up is good. I moved my microwave down from above my head to kitchen bench and had plates etc down too so they were easily accessible. I got people to put loads of washing on and used drier where possible so no washing had to be put on line above my head. Folding up washing was my arm exercises done- more useful than those in pamphlet and now putting dishes back so I have to reach again.
Again hugs ans will be thinking of you.
