Feeling Flat..

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@Hendrix
Feeling flat is not nice but hopefully the link above, which I had put up about 12 months ago, will make those that read this post and click smile and feel a little better.  It's called Oodle Arlie .. Golly! What a Day!'

Take care

Hello @nonkyboy - thank you !  I am not all that computer literate so it is all a learning curve !  (Bigger curves than what is on my chest !).
Summer  :-)

@Summerhill38 you just start the name with the @ and then follow by the persons name. It will usually give you a hint as to the name you want after you've typed a couple of letters

Hi Hendrix
When you are in that message screen you just type in the bottom box as per usual then hit the send button.
Don't worry - I don't know how people do the @Summerhill38 bit on their public messages !!!!
Summer  :-)

Thank you everyone, glad I'm not alone feeling this way.  
@Summerhill38 thank you for your message...I'm still trying to figure out how to reply lol

Hi Hendrix
I also sent you a personal message.
Summer :-)

Oh @Hendrix I know exactly how you feel. I'm also single with just my 22yo son living at home. He's a big gamer though so when he finishes work he's basically holed up in his bedroom. I am co-parenting three of my grandchildren that are aged 1,2 and 3 and they keep me busy and sane thankfully. They also keep me exhauseted but that's par for the course. Last night they were at their other nanny's house and I felt quite low. Started crying in my lounge room by myself. I ended up on Netflix watching movies on cancer just so I could wallow in my misery and know I wasn't the only one! Today thankfully I'm feeling much better and kids are back to keep me from overthinking things. We all need a good cry to let out our emotions at times. Allow yourself the time and then get back up on that warrior horse or unicorn or whatever and tackle the world. Sending you hugs xx

Hi Hendrix
Stay single !  As others have said, you can still feel alone even when there is a partner or others around.  We all get into these days of feeling so isolated and then all of a sudden it passes for no known reason.
Be kind to yourself - give yourself a treat of some kind.  Maybe (like me a bit of special handcream), or some chocolate or a bunch of flowers or even a massage) and just wait patiently for the feeling to pass.  It will.
Sometimes others just cannot understand where you are at this time so do come online and talk to others as we do know how you are feeling.
Big cyber hugs  Summer  :-)

@Hendrix.  Meeting up with others for a coffee who are in the same boat helps - I googled local bc support groups and found one in my area. Also YWCA is running free 8 week hydrotherapy course for bc people who are 8 weeks plus post op called Encore  - another avenue to meet others - it's available many places in Australiabut as no funding no marketing budget.Exercise as she suggests is also a good idea as it releases endorphins which are feel good hormones - how about pink lady dragon boat racing ? I think being in the orbit of others who get it because they too have bc could help you a lot - just seeing others out and about might go a long way to lifting that feeling of hopelessness that hovers occasionally .There really is a lot around for us but we need to step up ourselves to find it - but if you do it just multiplies Another optionI found helpful - Cancer Council has Cancer Connect - they found a lady who been thru similar stuff to me and she rang and spoke to me for an hour - to hear her voice meant the world to me at the time - she had gotten thru it all and was enjoying life and I could hear it in her voice.The BCNA journey kit had suggestions too - my first read was just about treatment stuff but there is a lot more in it at the back

When I was a young mum a long while ago I experienced awful isolation and loneliness, lucky for me there was a local breastfeeding mums org to contact and within no time a friendly mum was knocking on my door. I think that saved me from depression at the time.  I've had many periods of loneliness ,both in and out of relationships, since then never sure why (yep more counselling needed) as I'm pretty involved in work family etc. I'm with you Hendrix and wish you were close by and we could have a chat, now though we seem to connect to online communities.  I've looked on the bc web and can't fine a local group or if they exist they are held at times that don't suit due to work. It would be nice to have a group to meet up with for coffee or a meal.  I was glad to see Cabrini health have a lunch and bc panel in September so I am planning to go to that. I wish I could attend the pink lunch in October but I will be in japan then. For me, I find cycling is my total salvation and I cycle 6 days per week to stay sane and on top of how I feel.