I've retyped this post so many times I wasn't sure what to say. I got my results today and I feel numb. I've been quite calm, not many tears, but I know it hasn't hit me yet. At this stage, it's early breast cancer but I meet with the surgeon tomorrow. We are new to where we live and apart from my husband and two young children, we have no family support nearby and haven't made many friends yet so feeling a little isolated, so I need to take advantage of any support I can get. Thank you.

Hi Im so sorry you are here.. the beginning of this journey is a whirlwind I was diagnosed in December with stage 1 grade 1 i have had 3 tumours removed and just finished radiation it's only been 4 months but I feel like it's been longer we are all here to support you let us know how it goes Tomorrow pam xx

Hi Im sorry you have joined us.. I too only joined in early february and yes what a whirlwind and I too really haven't still let anything out only small tear here and there.The everyone here have been great with their suppose and help with my journey. Where are you from? I start my chemo tomorrow and not looking forward to it but here we go for the next stage.Good luck and ask lots of question. Which i didnt do at first but have learnt since.hugs xxxx

Best wishes for tomorrow. You will have many questions, but there will be time to get them all answered, not necessarily at once. There are lots of people here who can help, advise and listen. Your medical team are there to guide and help. It will all seem a huge labyrinth of activity and confusion at first, but take it slowly, breathe deeply and things will become clearer. One step at a time, you can cover a huge amount of ground one step at a time! I am four and a half years from where you are now, well and getting on with my life. You can get through this. Take care.

Hi @SLD230317 Do you have a My journey Kit? https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/ ;do you have a breast Care Nurse https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx

Welcome @SLD230317 and sorry you have had to join us. It can be a shock when you first hear the news. I was able to see my results in private so had my tears well and truly over before seeing the Dr. I know when I found my lump I was calm and pragmatic. ..I knew it was cancer I just needed the evidence.So the next few weeks will be a lot to take in and we are here to support you as best we can. Ask anything. No question is dumb. Kath x

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primek
Member
9 years ago
Well they can never actually know if it's in your bloodstream intil it lands somewhere...but chemo it's designed to seek and destroy rapidly dividing cells so hopefullly if any escapees it will get the blighters. Mine was bigger and a higher grade than pathology and scans thought. 12 months on going strong. I always knew I would have chemo as mine was a her2 from biopsy . ..but I was still upset when confirmed. Scary times I know. We are here listening. Kath x
AineG
Member
9 years ago
Melindas Right, you never know until you have the full written report. Speculation is not helpful. Keeping fingers and toes crossed for you. There's still the treatment to come. so hang on in. Hugs Aine xox
melclarity
Member
9 years ago
Gee! Honestly i really wish they didn't say anything until pathology comes in because honestly theyre the only results that are definitive. After 6yrs and a recurrence ive learned a lot. At least you know and will have a plan when you sit with the oncologist. It is overwhelming because you werent expecting more news of course. Hang in there once you have a plan and chat it certainly helps knowing yr direction. Youve got this! Hugs Melinda x
SLD230317
Member
9 years ago
Well this week has been a difficult one. After my surgery going well, the surgeon said he didn't expect me to need any further treatment. However, my pathology report said otherwise. We got the top line info and the affected area was double the size initially calculated and it appears to be more aggressive than first thought. Therefore, there is the likelihood it is in my bloodstream. I felt like I'd been punched in the stomach again. I'm getting my head around it and meet with my surgeon on Thursday to talk the report in more detail and talk further treatment. Again, I'm trying to be positive and my husband, children, loved ones and discussions like these, keep my spirits up. And my son asks me every day when he gets in from pre-school if I have my new boob yet (keeps me smiling). Think he might be a boob man when he's older :smile:
AineG
Member
9 years ago
Hi @SLD230317 so glad to hear your surgery went well. I love your son's question. My kids really kept it real for me, and never let me feel "too" sorry for myself! (don't worry I did feel plenty sorry for myself at times, but they were always able to bring me back!)

Good luck with the next steps. :smile:

@tracy.ec I spent six months reading b4 posting. The great thing about bad dreams is eventually you wake up :smile:

be kinds to yourselves over this time. Give yourself all the space you need to recover mentally & phsyically
tracyec
Member
9 years ago
Hi SLD
I hope you are doing well. I had my diagnosis just over a month ago and still feels like a bad dream. I have good days and then a bad one. I have learnt so much about BC in the space of a month. it takes time to come to terms with the detour that your life has taken. I have found reading information and the online comments on this network to be helpful. Even though it has taken me a month to actually post something - I feel more positive knowing that you can learn a lot from other people's journeys. One day at a time...
melclarity
Member
9 years ago

nikkid said:

Hi @SLD230317 you go girl...wonderful to hear the first big hurdle is over.

I've just had a DIEP reconstruction and my lovely 19 year old son came in today to be here for my first walk around the ward. I was so excited to see him and he was so beautifully compassionate, it was good for my soul.

But one thing he did say he was no longer worried, because he knows I will always be honest with him and his brother about whatever happens. He said he appreciated that and that this is what has helped him to feel much less worried.

So, wonderful your kids are asking questions xxxx

WOW I can't believe this is exactly what happened when I was in hospital with my 17yo Son!! thats uncanny!!! my son struggled badly for this surgery and moreso as he had gone to live at his dads so his anxiety was through the roof. x
primek
Member
9 years ago
Glad the surgery went well and you feel much more positive. Humour is almost needed as treatment plan I reckon. Take care. X
nikkid
Member
9 years ago
Hi @SLD230317 you go girl...wonderful to hear the first big hurdle is over.

I've just had a DIEP reconstruction and my lovely 19 year old son came in today to be here for my first walk around the ward. I was so excited to see him and he was so beautifully compassionate, it was good for my soul.

But one thing he did say he was no longer worried, because he knows I will always be honest with him and his brother about whatever happens. He said he appreciated that and that this is what has helped him to feel much less worried.

So, wonderful your kids are asking questions xxxx
SoldierCrab
Member
9 years ago
Humour is how I got thru my treatments ....
awesome to hear it went well yesterday
Soldier Crab