Work/grief/sadness
Hi all, apologies if this has already been discussed but I couldn’t find anything elsewhere. I’m 46, had a right mastectomy (Diep flap) and left reduction in early December for stage 2 invasive lobular carcinoma. My recovery went really well, no pain whatsoever. I still have another procedure to alter the flap and then have nipple tattooing but have to wait until later in the year. Started on Tamoxifen in Jan. I went back to work at the start of March and since then have felt the wheels come off a bit. I went back on reduced hours but in a different role to what I usually do (but just as busy!) 3 weeks in I was feeling overwhelmed and crying at the drop of a hat. This role was only to cover someone else and when I asked for more time on reduced hours/duties I was given yet another new role which is totally unfamiliar to me. Consequently I ended up leaving work early this morning as I was in tears. I think because my recovery went so well I hadn’t properly processed everything that had happened before (diagnosis to surgery was pretty quick). And work seems to have triggered a huge reaction that I didn’t expect. It feels like the reality of all this has hit all at once and I’m on a huge emotional rollercoaster. I am seeing a counsellor and she’s been amazing. Plus I’ve started acupuncture. I’m so used to be busy and I used to love it but at the moment, I just don’t have the capacity for it. Has anyone else had a similar experience?
Does life go back to normal?
Hi! thanks to BCN for putting me onto this discussion page. I was diagnosed with ER, PR & HER2+ breast cancer June 2024 at the age of 53yrs. Had surgery to remove two (R) breast aggressive tumours, three months of chemo and 4 weeks of radiation. I’m now on Anastrozole. I feel I got off lightly and just thought I’d get back to my normal life. That wasn’t so easy. I’m gradually returning to full-time work, exercise and trying to return to my once active single social life. I’m having acupuncture to help with immunity and general wellbeing. I had beautiful long blonde hair. Spent lots of money on my hair and nails. My question is… what do all you amazing women do to get back into fitness, to avoid the tiredness, and to help with your hair and nails? Are there any good vitamin supplements? Am I able to use collagen? Thank you for your advice xx
I don't feel like myself
Hi, I'm new to the BCNA Online Network and have spent a little time today reading through some of your posts - just wanted to say thanks as I'm finding the posts useful, in some ways a little scary, but reassuring. I'm 54, I was diagnosed with early stage DCIS in late May this year - one week after starting a new contract job - and then it all just happened so fast. Thankfully I didn't need to have chemo and had radiation treatment about 6 weeks post surgery. During all of this, our family was dealing with dad's declining health (Parkinson's/dementia) and I took on the job of being with mum while working from home, visits to dad in hospital all while arranging a place for him in an aged care facility - I was desperate to get it all done before radiation treatment started. Yep I had a bit going on. I've been taking anastrozole for almost 3 weeks and the anxiety and low moods are really affecting me (hot flushes and night sweats aren't fun either but I can manage them). I'm also very emotional - just typing this makes me teary. I think my current role was a trigger for my anxiety and mood. I've lost confidence in my ability to perform the role, I feel like I'm letting my team down and myself - I feel silly for feeling this way. I'm currently off work because I had a meltdown (at work) and during this time off, I've been realising that roles with high stress/responsibility are not for me right now. My employer has been fantastic - very supportive and understanding. I'm pretty active and have a good diet and keep these practices going, even though some days are a struggle - it's one thing that's helping. I'm also seeing my GP this week to talk about all of this and about the medication - I feel like there is a lot more information I should know. But I'm not keen on treating these symptoms with anti-anxiety or anti-depressants. I'm interested to know if anyone has a recommendation for a naturopath that has experience in treating women dealing with the effects of hormone blockers. Thanks for "listening" - just sharing this has helped.
Post DCIS
Hi all- I’ve been going well after surgery July, radiotherapy had nasty burns after treatment so after surgery and radiation.. and COVID to move interstate closer to daughter and grandson. I had last 6 months off teaching -and just started new role 1st Feb in ACT . Sold then bought new home,flew day before Brisbane lockdown so quarantined 4 days. Lived in hotel 8 weeks while also starting new job... longer story short.....I’m tired , expectations high and I’m just sore and exhausted. Feeling isolated. Contacted breast screen here yesterday and was so lovely to hear supportive voice of BCN. My dilemma now is do I tell principal -as even my friends don’t know what I’ve been through - my mum died of breast cancer so knew responses that happen- only told my sister right up to post surgery . I hate feeling like a failure to my class at new school now. As WAS good with behaviour management so have quite a few tricky kids... Catch 22 - as don’t want them to think I’m making excuses- but student behaviour, change of state, IT and state policies/ procedures... a few challenges. Sorry for sooking but any advice ... especially if you are a principal?? Do I wait until end of term or duck it up ... DCIS 😢
What doesn't kill you makes you stranger. And strangely more able to cope.
I got laid off work yesterday, like many of the nation's bottom dwelling disposables. Guess what? It's OK. Two ding dong doosey run ins with BC may have left me scarred and misshapen, but bloody hell, it makes you tough. So. Unlike many who haven't stared down the barrel of an obviously loaded gun, we've learnt how it feels to be under threat. We know panicking doesn't help, even though it's a natural reaction. We are uniquely experienced in the art of getting people to stay the fuck away from us. We understand being poor and a bit bored isn't the end of the world. We know that for some it doesn't end well, but many survive. After a struggle. That the odds on that one can't be calculated or manipulated. I'm going to stay home and do bugger all for a few days. Then I'll contemplate the next six months. Hang in there, thrill seekers, this is going to be an interesting ride. MXX
The gift that keeps giving 😞
http://liz.oriordan.co.uk/CancerBlog/moving-on/?post=one-door-closes I just received this blog post in my email What Liz has to say is all so true and so devastating. I've been navigating loss of job & identity since before my BC diagnosis nearly 4 years ago, but bc continued to take. I developed lymphoedema very soon after surgery, going into my first sleeve at the 6 week mark. At the time I was working in a clinical nursing capacity. I continued in that job for around 6 months, during which time my very supportive workplace tried to find as much non clinical work for me as possible. In the end, as I was only working 2 days a week, but needed more days financially, I decided to look for alternatives. I was very lucky in the last 2 & 1/2 years to have found 2 non clinical nursing roles, that I've thoroughly enjoyed. Like Liz, if I'd been working in the cancer sphere, I don't think that I could have coped with that emotionally. Just shows how cancer doesnt discriminate. I'll be thinking of Liz, & wishing her all the best as she moves in to this next phase