Feeling overwhelmed
Hi thereAll I am 59, happily married, have two adult children. One grandson and baby no 2 due anyday now... Had surgery last week for lumpectomy and Sentinel node biopsy. Everything went well Saw surgeron yesterday . Lymph nodes are clear. Margins good. My issues is I am SO overwhelmed. Smiling for family. Smiling for friends. Little background. I had **bleep** cancer 10 years ago, back in 2016. Chemo and radiation. It was brutal. The burns were horrible. The exhaustion was the worst. Everyone is saying.... your so lucky you caught it early. You've done this before... you'll be right. Support is encouraging and I am lucky to be surrounded by lots of love. I am to be a grandmother again in two weeks and have a lively gorgeous 2 year old grandson. Timing suck.... I am overwhelmed with sadness I am overwhelmed With discourage, feeling of resentment. Feeling very isolated. **bleep** THIS CANCER... so sorry for language but it express how I feel. I want to shout. Cry. Hit something and hide under the covers and not deal with this. I know that I should be grateful. I am sick and exhausting from smiling on the outside, but paddling like hell of the inside. Hiding my emotions. I still work. Love the job. I work for a Toy library as assistant. Its not a stresing job. Only 3 days a week. They have been wonderful. How has everyone else cope. I know what I am going through is normal. Can anyone suggest a good cancer support group. I live in Victoria on the Mornington peninsula. Love and support to everyone going on this same journey Let's kick ass . Cancer sucks. Xxxxxx
Newly Diagnosed
Hi My name is Victoria, I'm 42 years old and I have been newly (well, 5.5 weeks ago) diagnosed with breast cancer. It is is located underneath the nipple on my left breast and it is invasive ductal carcinoma, ER+, PR- HER2-, Stage Two. (Sorry if I don't have all the details but that is what I have interpreted it as). The tumor is 2.5 cm. I have seen my surgeon twice and I will be having a single mastectomy next week some time followed by 6 months of chemotherapy. We had discussed a lumpectomy so he could try and save the nipple but I opted for the mastectomy, just for a clean break. I'm dealing with it okay- I'm a bit concerned I haven't cried yet- and everyone else around me is very supportive and very shocked. I just wanted to introduce myself and hopefully be able to contribute something to these groups. Thank you Victoria
Write off 6 to 12 months?
I was given a diagnosis today of small tumor, early invasive breast cancer, double hormone positive and I have an appointment with surgeon in 1 week. At just-turned-60, the next 9 months were supposed to include 2 sons' graduations, 1 son's wedding (a family first), our 25th wedding celebration, a road trip to find-purchase-or-build a new home in a tree-change location in another state, and downsizing-packing-relocating. Surgeon and nurse at breast clinic today seemed to think "we can work around things" ...is that realistic? What is the most valuable question to ask the surgeon, next week, re time frames and realistic expectations? Thanks.
Hormone Blockers
Hi. I was diagnosed with early invasive carcinoma with lobular & ductal features, grade 2, ER/PR + and HER2- on 3rd March. I had a lumpectomy on 9th March and subsequently developed a large - 94mm - haematoma which popped on 4th April and has been bleeding since. It is not losing much now, but still enough to have delayed radiation. There have been 2 unsuccessful attempts to drain it, but it remains solid. I am currently now scheduled to start radiation on 5th May and had the planning scan last Friday. I'm then due to start Letrozole 2 weeks after radiation finishes. My big concern at the moment is the Letrozole and the potential side effects. We have a 7 week trip to Europe booked to leave on 31st August and I'm terrified of side effects kicking in and affecting our holiday. There are plenty of stories on BC forums indicating how awful those side effects can be. What would you do?Just need to talk to someone
I’m 59yo and newly diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m really not sure I get what is going on either because I’m just slow or it’s just not all clear yet so I feel confused, in total panic and that I’m drowning and there is nobody to save me 😢 I am waiting for an mri this Thursday. I have a 10cm Not Special Type Grade 1 something positive to do with hormones and her2 1+. The surgeon says mastectomy is the only choice because of the size. There isn’t anything clear about what happens after that… is that how it’s meant to be? I just feel very lost appreciate any words of wisdom for these circumstances? susan
Radiation Therapy Omission
Hello, I have been informed by a radiation oncologist that I am at a increased risk of developing radiation-induced fibrosis (RIF) from radiation therapy (RT) due to my having a connective tissue disorder. Following research around this I am currently weighing-up the risks and examining my options. I find the decision-making around this challenging and would like to invite members to share their experiences with: Decision-making around RT omission Experiences with RT omission Experiences with RIF e.g. immediate and late-onset effects Please include as much detail as possible. All comments are appreciated. Thank you, 🌷KlioYoung and overwhelmed
Hi all, I'm 30 years old, with the BRCA 2 gene mutation, and was diagnosed after my first high-risk screening MRI found a tumour - mixed lobular and ductal invasive carcinoma, stage 2, grade 2, hormone receptor positive, HER2 negative. Because of my BRCA status, I had a double mastectomy in February 2026. An 11mm tumor was removed alongside a 50mm DCIS component that was associated with the invasive tumor and adjacent tissue was removed from my left breast, but my right breast was all clear. The sentinel lymph node biopsy showed a 1mm micrometastases in one node (of two). Initially, the plan was just a double mastectomy followed by endocrine therapy, but the option of chemo has been put on the table post-surgery (and even the choice of two different regimes). My oncologist's justification was "we want to give you every option available because you're young" but it feels like I've just been given an impossible decision with no clear better option. I'm also having a lot of anxiety around chemo and the implications for fertility as I am yet to have children (I was able to freeze a small number of eggs pre-surgery but I would have to self-fund any further cycles). I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this but maybe I'm just hoping someone will have had a similar experience (especially if you were diagnosed young or before having kids!) or have some words of advice because I'm feeling overwhelmed by all of the choices I'm having to make.
Molecular Profiling? Chemo?
Hi All, I'm recently diagnosed and my pathology reports from recent lumpectomy shows ER+, Grade 3, Ki67 20%, LVI present. All 6 Lymph nodes clear. I'm 47, fit, strong and healthy :) It's hard to believe this is happening in my body while I feel so normal. Apart from cording from my sentinel node biopsy! My specialists are recommending numerous treatment options, including precautionary chemo for 3 months. They've also mentioned Molecular profiling to see if my cells would respond to chemo or not. Also radiation and hormone blockers. I'm seriously considering doing molecular profiling so my questions are: Has anyone here made the financial investment to do this? How did it affect your outcome and final treatment decisions? Looking forward to hearing.
? Chemotherapy
Please HELP!! Hi everyone, i am 45 years old and i have recently been diagnosed with; ER positive Ki-67 positive Tumour size 12mm Toumour has been surgically removed 6 weeks ago with clear margins from right breast. Tumour grade 3 2 x Negative nodes I was told that i need radiation therapy and endocrine therapy. But i was given the option to decide if i want to have chemo as well! I am really struggling with making this decision whether i should have chemotherapy or not. Or do i just do Radiation and endocrine therapy. I was wandering if anyone has been in similar situation as me and how did they decide on treatment plan?Genomic Testing experiences
Hi all, I’m a 46 year old mother of two older teenage boys and was diagnosed with breast cancer in April 2025. I have since had a lumpectomy and sentinel node clearance and been advised I had Stage 1 Grade 2 invasive ductal carcinoma with lobular features with clear margins and no node involvement. My tumour was 16mm and is ER/PR positive and HER2 negative. I saw my medical oncologist on Friday and we discussed will be radiation and hormone therapy with Tamoxifen for up to 10 years if I tolerate it. My online prediction is that chemo will be of no benefit to me but my oncologist did discuss the genomic testing and that it was my decision as to whether I have it or not but if I did want to go ahead I would need to make a decision quickly as I am already nearly 3 weeks post op. I am looking for advice or peoples experiences as to if they were offered the test and what they did. I know everyone is different and that the cost would be prohibitive for a lot of people. We can afford to do it but I’m unsure as to if it is a good idea or not. thank you in advance for any advice or experience you’d like to share and good luck with all your journeys x
