Friends say the dumbest things

I've had some pretty woeful things said to me by people who just don't think.  I'm also been belittled by someone with bc for wallowing around in misery by being on this forum.  Stupid statements do not come from non-cancer folk, only.  There have been times that friends have said something that grates a bit but if it's wrong, I know that it's not coming from a bad place and I can call it out or just let it go.  One of the first texts I got after diagnosis was from a good friend of nearly 40 years and said "But we're supposed to grow old together".  My thoughts at the time were that she thought that we weren't and it hurt but I knew she was hurting too as we had lost another friend to this.  I now realise, that her words were really saying that she wants us to grow old together.  We all get the words wrong sometimes and we are all able to take things the wrong way depending on our state of mind at the time.  Don't hang around with poison but don't go looking for it, either.