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First week & scared
Have today just received my biopsy results - I guess it is more or less what I expected & surprisingly I feel somewhat relieved to the way I have been feeling (totally devastated,scared,angry & out of control)
Now that I have the results of biopsy I do I guess feel slightly in control.. Have high grade ductal carcinoma & lymph node involvement also positive hormone receptors??? All a bit foreign atm but am sure I will become so used to this language in my future.
Had a great talk with nurse at my local surgery who was extremely helpful & at the end of the day on the "scale" of this I am not at the so called "good" end or the so called "bad" end am floating in the middle.
My first appointment is at Peter Mac on Monday so will see where my journey is headed from there....
Oh yes & my husband is fairing ok so as to my 21yr old daughter Hannah, my 19yr old son Sam & my 15yr old son Jake. It is just so hard knowing that I am unfortunately going to have to take them on this journey with me & it is going to be rough but I am trying to be positive & know that I am going to die but not from this.......
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- Thank you for that & I am already finding that when I feel I can't do this I get straight on here & feel so much better. Everyone I have made contact with or who have made contact with me are all so much help in this time of total upheaval. I am so very thankful for this website xx
- Thank you for that & I am already finding that when I feel I can't do this I get straight on here & feel so much better. Everyone I have made contact with or who have made contact with me are all so much help in this time of total upheaval. I am so very thankful for this website xx
- This sight becomes such a supportive place to air your fears and concerns , sometimes the family just dont get it, as much as they love us the ladies here are the ones who are in the same boat. No one is judgemental and everyone seems to know what to say. I found the amazing thing was suddenly I wasnt the only one , my first day at Peter mac I went to the car and shook and shook, and thought I HAVE BC it wasnt till then it really hit me and then I said you BARS---- your not gonna get me.I have my first scans next week 10 months since diagnosis and treatment and think where on earth has the time gone. yet at the beggining I didnt think Id see light at the end. Wishing you all the best A dean
I found this site a huge source of support in my early days, the experiences of others that had travelled the road before my was just what I needed.
if you get a chance do a Look Good Feel Better session, the session is awesome and does help make you feel better.
the biggest thign that touched me was the kindness of strangers, having cancer has renewed my faith in human beings, so there are some good things that come from the experience.
My husband and I are taking the opportunity of having a break next week, we are going to The Great ocean Road for a few days to have some quiet time before my next surgery and then my radiation starts.
I will check in when I get back to see that youa re doing ok.
cheers
Donna
I found this site a huge source of support in my early days, the experiences of others that had travelled the road before my was just what I needed.
if you get a chance do a Look Good Feel Better session, the session is awesome and does help make you feel better.
the biggest thign that touched me was the kindness of strangers, having cancer has renewed my faith in human beings, so there are some good things that come from the experience.
My husband and I are taking the opportunity of having a break next week, we are going to The Great ocean Road for a few days to have some quiet time before my next surgery and then my radiation starts.
I will check in when I get back to see that youa re doing ok.
cheers
Donna
- Thank you for offering support & encouragement. I have found this online network so helpful. Just being able to express exactly how I feel & knowing that someone out there has been through it all & some are even well & truly on the other side.... My job now is to get to the other side...... Thank you so much x
- Thank you for your advice & support. I know I am in for a rocky road but just knowing that there are others just like me out there ready to offer advice & encouragement is so so helpful.
I so remember those first weeks of my diagnosis and the feelings of my life being out of my control.
I was diagnosed in late November 2012 so it is still fairly recent. I have just finished my chemo and am feeling so happy its over.
Of course there is still much more ahead of me but I found it bearable by enjoying the good days and doing what I could on those days.
I found the waiting the hardest part, waiting for results, waiting for doctors, waiting for treatments, I just had to learn patience, I hope you do better at that than I did.
I found my children a huge source of support, as I hope yours will be for you.
I wish you well with your treatments and hope that you cope with the swings and round abouts.
cheers
Donna
I was in your position just a few short months ago. As I type this I am feeling good today after my first round of chemo last week (although the last week has not been at all fun). My biggest piece of advice to you at the moment is to take every day as it comes. The beginning all happens so quickly and it is hard to take it all in. Then the waiting starts, waiting to heal, waiting for appointments etc.... Then it all happens quickly again. Thinking too much about the next step (in those waiting moments) is not at all good for a positive mindset. Use those days to do things you enjoy so that there are some positive memories associated with those days. I caught up with friends, had some lovely dinners, spent time with my kids.....
I am now going to enjoy the next two weeks before chemo hits again!
Take care of yourself first!
Kathy
I was in your position just a few short months ago. As I type this I am feeling good today after my first round of chemo last week (although the last week has not been at all fun). My biggest piece of advice to you at the moment is to take every day as it comes. The beginning all happens so quickly and it is hard to take it all in. Then the waiting starts, waiting to heal, waiting for appointments etc.... Then it all happens quickly again. Thinking too much about the next step (in those waiting moments) is not at all good for a positive mindset. Use those days to do things you enjoy so that there are some positive memories associated with those days. I caught up with friends, had some lovely dinners, spent time with my kids.....
I am now going to enjoy the next two weeks before chemo hits again!
Take care of yourself first!
Kathy
