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kmakm
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7 years ago

Eyelashes and surgery

It's such a stupid little thing but I am so cross with my surgical team.

Somewhere on breast surgeon Liz O'Riordan's blog she wrote that having breast cancer taught her the importance of how much the little things can mean to a patient. Such as now when she operates on women going through/having just gone through chemotherapy, rather than applying tape directly to the eyes, she makes sure there's a bit of gauze under the tape. This protects the eyelashes from being ripped out when the tape comes off, baby eyelashes or ones bravely hanging on.

This was not done for me and I'm really annoyed. I had managed to hang onto most of my eyelashes through chemo. They had thinned a little but were doing better than my eyebrows.

When I was finally able to hobble to a mirror I was appalled to see that almost every single lash on the bottom left lid had gone, and that half of the lashes on the top right lid had disappeared.

Now I'm not especially vain, don't always put on make up, and wear glasses. But ffs! After all the ugly indignities that BC puts you through, the scars you're left with, the ongoing side effects of long treatments, is it SO bloody hard to take the time and effort to think about and eliminate one thing for the patient?? One little thing that can affect our fragile self-esteem, sense of personal pride, privacy about our health? The thing that keeps grit out of our eyes? One less thing to remind us of CANCER everytime we look in the mirror???

How long will I have to wait before my eyelashes grow back?? What's a little thing about your treatment you'd change?

I am mightily pissed off.


  • @AllyJay I never knew that! But it explains something I saw recently watching a Catalyst programme on fitness. It showed the AIS testing swimmer's lactic acid levels by blood prick testing their ear lobes. Interesting. AND sensible.
  • @kmakm
    It would seem that whoever was in the Theatre has never been through any of this nor understands the emotional effect.  Do they have a feedback form you can fill out for both the hospital and the surgeons?  Hopefully a well worded sentence or two may encourage a policy change to ensure that this becomes common practice in Theatre

  • You'd think it would be standard procedure for everyone . It's that little bit of extra care .... Probably the theatre nurse's job . 
  • I too lost all my eyelashes during chemo, and so know it's not just the cosmetic aspect, but the loss of the protective job they do that is horrible. Living in a multi cat home, and it was summer, the ceiling fans would send stray cat hairs flying and straight into my unprotected eyes. Mine grew back sparsely but quite quickly, but now they're crooked and I often have to pluck the odd one out that is growing the wrong way and is scratching my eyeball. As you say, it's the little procedures that they could take to alleviate either pain or loss of self esteem or whatever, which can make such a difference. I hate getting my finger pricked for blood glucose level checks as I use my fingers so much with my knitting. After explaining to the nurses that my earlobes have exactly the same blood in them as my finger tips, and about a tenth of nerve endings, so could they please stab there, they have complied, but why don't they do this anyhow? Why the finger tip, after the tongue and lips, the most nerve rich part of our bodies?
  • That's really awful @kmakm.  The eyebrows are the worst.  Followed by not having energy to do things. Prior to this, I felt pretty good for an unfit 54 yo.  I'd give most things a go with the kids.  Now I'm not only too tired but a bit scared to attempt some things.  I've definitely aged at leas 10 years and still have to get through the rest of chem and then find out what the hormones have in store for me.
  • @kmakm I got my nails re shellacked on Friday to get me through the next 2 rounds and I was very interested to see how they were going. Looked quite normal - a little bit more peeling at the ends but seem to be hanging in there so far. The dark nail polish and freezer mittens must be doing there job. 
  • Oh no @k@kmakm it is so the little things that just get u so upset isn’t it - especially upsetting when u kept them through chemo and then u literally have them ripped out of u by abit of tape. I mentioned mine to my anaesthetist at the second surgery as I had false eyelashes at the time and it seemed like it was going to be hard to tape without damaging the eyelashes but she somehow managed to do it. I just googled about growth time and got anywhere from 3 weeks to 9 months. For me personally apart from the hair loss the thing I have hated the most is losing some of my strength and not being able to go for a run - I just feel like I have aged so much. Hopefully when all this is over I will start to regain that as long as tamoxifen doesn’t to something crazy to me. Big hugs xoxoxo