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Thanks Finita and Kathleen,  Thanks girls.  Since my diagnosis, I have a greater appreciation of life and a faith in God.  I grew up in a J.W. Family and because I disagreed with their teachings and disassociated myself, I was excommunicated from my Family.  I love them dearly and it hurts to have no contact with them.  The only way that they'll talk to me again is if I went back to the religion which I am not prepared to do as I don't want to be a hypocrite.  To me that is not love but control.   I am sorry that you have no contact with your other Sister, Kathleen.  It's a time when you need your Family.  The fluid has built up on my wound site and I have to have it drained again.  All the best to you both.  Love Ruth xxx

Hi Viv,

I am also sorry to hear about your neighbours , how truly pathetic and cold blooded creatures they have turned out to be . Honestly, you poor darling, going through as much as you have . I tell you what I told Ruth and all the other bcna sisters...to hell with them...we don't need them.  Be strong and happy because life is precious and we musnt; let idiots spoil it for us .

love and hugs

finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Bella,

what you wrote is just so inspiring truthful and to the point .  I am not very good at expressing myself, but thanks to you I don't have to ...you said it all beautfully ...thank you .

love and hugs

finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ruth I am so sorry, but I do understand were you are coming from, sadly people don't understand and yes...some do get very jelous. Be strong and to hell with them...we don't need them in our lives .  Be Happy and speedy recovery .

Lotas of hugs and love

finita xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you Kathleen,

Wish you and Bella were my neighbours.

Viv

sending a hug { } (not sure if that's how you do it, but if not, it is now!). xx

oh dear!  ....

Hi Viv,

It's good to vent!  You've obviously been through a great deal already.  Some people have no idea at all do they - as you say...do they have ANY idea what led you to your "free boob job".  I could just scream when I hear that sort of remark.  And as for your friends across the road;  all I can think of, is they just don't know how to cope, what to say, so they choose avoidance.  And yes...self-absorbed.  It always amuses me when I hear people make a remark about "normal".  Normal went out the window the day we were diagnosed.  I just dont even bother most of the time now;  my aches & pains, weight gain, high cholesterol, self doubt, crying jags, interspersed with very happy days, fear of the cancer returning;  when people ask (and they really DONT want an honest reply), I just say life is never the same, but at least I'm here to talk about it.  They then move on to the next really important thing like who won My Kitchen Rules, or who is on the Voice, or some such other stuff (can you detect my sarcasm here :)).    

Be kind to yourself, and vent whenever you want to :)

Love, Bella x 

thanks for your kind words Kathleen, I will join your group xxx