Today’s Mood: cranky with a touch of psycho
I think I understand what little orphan Annie meant when she lamented that tomorrow is always a day away. This journey just never ends and I wonder whether the sun ever does actually come out (figurat...
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@StarGirl My sister's children who I am raising, never talk about their mum yelling. And believe you me, she shouted A LOT (fearsome temper, tiger mother). They were eight and ten when she died, and what they talk about are the fun times, the trips they took with mum. And accidents! That time when I fell over and broke my arm kind of thing.
My sister spent a lot of time making memories. She didn't have much money and so did lots of camping trips, caravan parks and cheap accommodation. She took them to places she loved, and imbued that love into them.
We'd all love it if our boys didn't pee all over the bathroom, if the kids didn't fight like cats and dogs. But your kids are going to grow up regardless. You have to do what feels right and good for you but is it worth it for you try and let go a bit for a while? Maybe not care about the mess (though always about hygiene!) as much. Next time you feel like you're going to explode try saying 'F**k it' (to yourself) and say 'Come on boys, let's go out and have a milkshake/go to the park/eat hot chips on the pier. We'll tidy this up when we come home'. It will take the wind out of their sails and it will be a delightful memory for years to come. It's a kind of circuit breaker, for you and them.
It's also worth noting that boys brains aren't fully developed until they're about 28... so to a certain extent you could be farting against thunder!
They're going to remember the love, trust me. Ease up on yourself, parenting is hard enough, and accompanied by absurd levels of guilt at the best of times, let alone what you're dealing with. Be kind to you. You are enough. K xox
My sister spent a lot of time making memories. She didn't have much money and so did lots of camping trips, caravan parks and cheap accommodation. She took them to places she loved, and imbued that love into them.
We'd all love it if our boys didn't pee all over the bathroom, if the kids didn't fight like cats and dogs. But your kids are going to grow up regardless. You have to do what feels right and good for you but is it worth it for you try and let go a bit for a while? Maybe not care about the mess (though always about hygiene!) as much. Next time you feel like you're going to explode try saying 'F**k it' (to yourself) and say 'Come on boys, let's go out and have a milkshake/go to the park/eat hot chips on the pier. We'll tidy this up when we come home'. It will take the wind out of their sails and it will be a delightful memory for years to come. It's a kind of circuit breaker, for you and them.
It's also worth noting that boys brains aren't fully developed until they're about 28... so to a certain extent you could be farting against thunder!
They're going to remember the love, trust me. Ease up on yourself, parenting is hard enough, and accompanied by absurd levels of guilt at the best of times, let alone what you're dealing with. Be kind to you. You are enough. K xox