It is really confronting being told that you have a disease that is controllable but not curable and knowing that you now will be on some form of treatment for always. I started on Oral chemo Xeloda in early April to contain or shrink mets in my Lymph nodes and a spot on C7, follow up scans 3 weeks ago show that the cancer is shrinking and thankfully I am tolerating the treatment well so far, so I continue on taking this until I stop responding or the toxicity gets too bad. It's a really shitty thing to have to go through but at least now you have a treatment plan and can get this disease under control. I have a friend that was diagnosed stage 4 right from the start, cancer in both breasts, spine and liver. Her liver was completely black, she is now in remission her treatment is ongoing but her liver is completely clear now even our Onc was surprised by her results. I hope that all goes well for you and know that there is always someone here to listen or share in what you are going through.