Newly diagnosed bone & liver mets
hi everyone i first had breast cancer in 2013. This week i found out I have bone & liver mets. I'm 45. I am petrified and lost and angry and scared and so so sad. But mostly completely heartbroken f...
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Hey @etta You know, I was seriously considering refusing chemo when my cancer came back. At the moment my situation, as far as I know, is rather different because mine was a local recurrence which is, in theory, treatable. Mind you, all the palaver I went through in 2006 didn't seem to work, so...
If it happens again, and it probably will, I'm telling all and sundry that I've run out of chemo options. If you tell people you are considering refusing the pressure is absolutely bloody relentless. As in it never, ever, stops. Everyone hopes that they will be the one who makes you 'see sense' and the smugness when you capitulate has seen me ditch two people who were part of my life for over twenty years.
So, if that is your decision, and I can see why you will be considering it, tell no-one. Is that good advice, I don't know. But if you share your uncertainty you will be exposing yourself to a situation where many people think they know better. Think things through, take your time and make sure you truly have the strength of your convictions before you make up your mind.
Good luck. Marg xxx
If it happens again, and it probably will, I'm telling all and sundry that I've run out of chemo options. If you tell people you are considering refusing the pressure is absolutely bloody relentless. As in it never, ever, stops. Everyone hopes that they will be the one who makes you 'see sense' and the smugness when you capitulate has seen me ditch two people who were part of my life for over twenty years.
So, if that is your decision, and I can see why you will be considering it, tell no-one. Is that good advice, I don't know. But if you share your uncertainty you will be exposing yourself to a situation where many people think they know better. Think things through, take your time and make sure you truly have the strength of your convictions before you make up your mind.
Good luck. Marg xxx