@ddon My BS kept saying it (no one knows how long etc) and it drove me nuts. One day I'll have to give him some feedback. I think when trying to comfort someone who is understandably shocked, upset and scared a professional gets to say it once. After that, just no.
And I agree, it's important to be heard, and not fobbed off.
I speak vaguely about the future but in my head I get to about six months of planning and then it peters out into a we'll see fuzziness. It's even harder now with the pandemic. One good by-product is that it's made me, formerly an inveterate planner, much better at living in the moment and being present.