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MillyMolly
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20 days ago

Partner Issues

Hi there everyone. I’m really struggling at the moment. I was diagnosed with Stage 3 IDC and had to have a unilateral mastectomy, chemo and radiation . Unfortunately my partner of  7 years was unable to cope with the physical changes and never wanted to see me naked after the operation. He wasn’t very sensitive about saying “no” to my offer  either. He recently cheated and we broke up. I feel very alone but determined not to date again until I’m ready - if ever. Has anyone else experienced similar ? I think I am on grief and feeling very disillusioned.

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  • cranky_granny's avatar
    cranky_granny
    Member
    10 days ago

    MillyMolly​   your feelings are legit and understandable 

    Though my partner/husband wasn’t there for my breast cancer he had passed away.   it nearly broke us when I had cervical cancer.  If it wasn’t for our GP who gave him the riot act about it. I discovered he couldn’t handle the thought of me dying before him. We were together for just short of 40 years 
    As for your EX good riddance. Though I haven’t bothered with finding a replacement. I admit I thought of finding a “friend with benefits”  I don’t bother with that thought anymore meds fixed that. I do know a couple of people who have relationships like that, Someone that can go as the plus one on the invitations etc 

    you are number the  1 priority in life. Do what pleases and fulfilling for you 

  • Occultdiagnosis's avatar
    Occultdiagnosis
    Member
    19 days ago

    Hi Millymolly, 

    I just wanted to reach out to show my support to you. The man I was seeing also behaved similarly just to my diagnosis, clearly stating there was no future for us because of it. This is a time to focus on ourselves and our health. Sending you positive vibes. 

  • Thelma1's avatar
    Thelma1
    Member
    20 days ago

    Hi MillyMolly,  Even though I haven't had a similar experience to yourself I just wanted to reply so that you know you have a whole community here to support you.  My 2 cents worth -  I think you are wise to take your time and process everything you have been through both on the health front and the relationship front.  Sending you good vibes and hoping better times are ahead for you.