Lost and struggling

What an absolute flog @toni63 Sack him if you haven't already done so!

I've had a few experiences with total jerks (and one notable jerkess) that have left me seething. Best thing to do is never see them again. Even if that is a bit inconvenient.

It's difficult to forget this stuff. Even reading about your experience as reignited my anger at the brutally disconnected idiocy of people who are smart enough to obtain a doctorate but so stupid in other aspects of their lives.

In some ways I feel sorry for them. Even when I want to set their hair alight and tell them it's only a little fire.

Mxx

Oh, @Toni63, that is disgusting but not unusual.  I was told by the GP that "DCIS is not cancer so won't kill you" so i fully understand your feelings.
I agree with @Cath62, write the review and have a burning ceremony.  That can be cathartic.
All the best - make a toast as the embers burn.  💖

Hi @Toni63, what a terrible thing to say to you. Perhaps you could do your own 5 yr sign off. Submit your feedback to this dr. It can simply be an email with your review of their performance. You could also do a google review or if they have a website where reviews are provided you could use that. It is only fair to have your sign off on them too. After all none of these drs exist without you and others. 

If you don't want to provide a review you could write it and have a burning ceremony of the review to let go of these drs  it isn't worth thinking about them as they really mean nothing in your life. They are simply a tool to you to enable your treatment etc. They are finished now and so you don't have to hang on to them and their negative comments. I am sure you have much better things to think about. 

Enjoy being free of this dr. Enjoy being free of all the checks. Stay healthy and happy. 

Gosh @Toni63 - I've not had this experience & would have been totally gob-smacked & like you, probably put into shock - and tempted to slap him, or better - thump him!  Oops - big assumption there - was it a male or female?   

You've been thru so much already & to be told that by some 'non professional' professional ...... is just mind bending and totally unprofessional!  

I agree -  some people should NOT be allowed to hang their shingle when they have absolutely zero people skills - what was their supposed 'specialty'?  I hope you only saw them the once & then found someone else!!

Even tho it is some years later - it may well be worth documenting the conversation in writing with the Medical Board .... who knows how many other patients this so-called specialist may have treated in this manner - they really need to be censured ...... specially with the obvious mental anguish caused to you for all these years - & to how many others?

Take care, rest easy xx All the best with your signing off xx

@Toni63
I haven’t had this experience which is just as well as I might have killed him! Most of the medical specialists I have encountered - and there’s been quite a few - have been intelligent and understanding. But statistically there have to be some people who shouldn’t actually be allowed near sentient beings and you have unfortunately encountered one of them. Your friends are right - do not allow this person to cause you one more second of grief. Your sense of distress is easy to comprehend but he’s done enough damage, no need to do more to yourself. Let it go, you deserve to enjoy your life not relive his stupidity. Best wishes.