Thanks @arpie
While I am sure this will ring true for many, I can honestly say it didn’t happen to me. The reasons why people might hang back are true, however the first person I knew well to
be diagnosed with breast cancer acted in such a normal, ‘hey, this is what it is, have a good look now let’s get on with other stuff’ way that I suspect it not only relieved me of any discomfort or awkwardness but set in my own mind a way to deal with things myself. Reality can be very hard for some - best we can do is deal with our own insecurities and hope some of that process runs off on others.