Pet peeve

Hi Ady,

I have had the same response my brother and sister in law and some friends act like Cancer is contagious and won't have anything to do with me now offer to help so I have just cut them out as we are not living in the dark ages and don't need selfishness and the hurt that comes with that , the mastechtomey is hard enough to deal with . They have problems in the head , fair weather people. Don't need them. Human nature give up with them Take care let them sort themselves out. Hugs Peta

Hi Ady,

Dealing with cancer or major illness can be mentally & emotionally exhausting.  Whether as a patient, friend or family member everyone handles these situations differently. I think the majority of people are caring & wish the best outcome. I've come across different reactions & support. I believe it just shows that some people are better equipped than others.  It doesn't mean they don't care. Often they're just not sure what to say, do & have their own situations to deal with.  I think of them as my quiet supporters, cheering me on by prayers or best wishes. Surround yourself with those whose company you enjoy.   There are always a few who are annoying, but they were probably annoying before your diagnosis.

Cheers,

Orchid x

Yes totally understand about your daughter but like you said she may be in shock and doesn't know how to deal with it.  My eldest son (21) doesn't know how to deal with my BC either and can be really rude sometimes..

Hi Chrissk

I can understand where you are coming from. I don't want to be contacted by heaps of people but perhaps the ones that should be keeping in contact (daughter) should do a little more but as Scorpionqueen said above my daughter could be in shock. She lost her Dad when he was 56 so perhaps she is fearful that I may die too, but alas I am going strong and sure I will be hear for a long time yet. I live in the country so it can be a bit lonely at times.

Ady

Hi Scorpionqueen

That is sad for you with your sister. I know that I am not the only one in this situation. Luckily no one I know who has seen me has crossed across to the other side of the road yet LOL

My radiation is going well and I feel pretty good so far. Long may it continue. 19 treatments to go.

Ady

Ady yes it's hard when the ones you want to be by your side are not there for you...  but in my case I have not been left alone, I've been contacted by friends I haven't seen or spoken for like 3 yrs, for me sometimes its all too overwhelming when they want to see me I want to just be in my own little cocoon but I should appreciate the fact that they care and want to be supportive.

Chriss xx

Vent away Ady! It's  weird how just that one little word 'cancer'  has such a big impact! 

I too have been told 'not to contact me again' from my sister after telling her of my diagnosis... Thought she should know as our mum had it too and now me! What was I thinking? Grrr! Ok we aren't the closest of  families but Her reaction hurt more than the actual diagnosis!!

It's  hard to know how people will react, you just have to shrug it off.... Those who really care will make the effort... And those who don't, well maybe they're not meant to be with you through this time... As far as your daughter goes, I feel she's in shock! Just let her know you're there to answer any questions, maybe she needs  a bit of time to adjust? I know we don't get that time, we are thrown into appointments and treatments very quickly, but I feel your daughter will come around, be patient, it will all work out ...

Love and light for easy recovery and beautiful days... 

-Tracy

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