Well, arrived here safely and was greeted by nasty wet cold weather. Kind of appropriate, suits my mood. Spent time with my dad last night, he isn't there anymore, just seems like a shell on a bed. This is so hard. Tried to get him to respond but nothing. It has been happening for a while, getting more and more sick but I thought I would at least get to talk with him. Maybe today will be a better day. My brother and sister turned up and have made it all a big &^%$# drama circus. Why can't they act with a bit of dignity and grace, it's not about them...why can't they spend the last chance saying goodbye and leave the rest of it out of it? Sorry, just feeling really down and unhappy. Thank you all for the thoughts of support and kindness. It helps to know I have people sending positive vibes, helps to push the drama crap to the back of my mind.... Ree xxx

Oh Ree, this all brings back memories, i feel so much for you right now. just be there for you and Dad ignore the rest of the crap.say what needs to be said to Dad and just let him know you love him. he will know. my Dad had a massive stroke and was like a baby he didnt supposedly know what was going on according to the doctors.but i just talked to him normal.. i told him i loved him kissed him and said if he wanted to go to mum we would be fine. a tear rolled down his face. i know he heard me. the next morning he had died peacefully. it must be so hard for you with all your own hassles and having to deal with this and family too. i am with you in spirit. stay strong for yourself. the rest will be sorted out later. i know when my Dad passed away the bull shit that went on was pathetic but do what you can while you can, but remember YOU. when all is said and done you can't let the small crap get to you. trust me i have times when i let crap get to me and once i think about it i know how silly it is, at the moment it is about you and dad. keep me posted . you can call me any time if you need too. Fran

Hi Ree, Sorry to hear about your Dad.It must be hard for you to travel when you are not well and then to have to put up with family "stuff".Believe me we all have family memebers who annoy the hell out of us and you can't change them.You can only control your own reactions.If you can't avoid them then keep the conversations civil and generic.You are there for your dad and you need to keep calm for your own health.Save your strength for the important stuff. Hope the weather and the visit improves for you. Tonya xx

Once you have been through a life threatening experience ie bc you really do look at things differently. Take care. Don't be too hard on your family - if they don't know the real meaning of life you can't teach them- they will have to experience it themself. Take care of yourself and love your dad for as long as you can. My dad passed away nearly 15 years ago and I still have him close to me and call on him for strength. It was funny the night before this chemo, both my mum and dad came to me in my dreams and said that all was going to be fine. (My mum only passed 10 months ago) so I am pleased to dream that they are both re-united. Thinking of you and so glad that you are staying in contact online - we do care. XLeonie

What a lovely dream, they were looking after you!!!! How beautiful.

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FranP
Member
14 years ago
Oh Ree, this all brings back memories, i feel so much for you right now. just be there for you and Dad ignore the rest of the crap.say what needs to be said to Dad and just let him know you love him. he will know.

my Dad had a massive stroke and was like a baby he didnt supposedly know what was going on according to the doctors.but i just talked to him normal.. i told him i loved him kissed him and said if he wanted to go to mum we would be fine. a tear rolled down his face. i know he heard me.

the next morning he had died peacefully.

it must be so hard for you with all your own hassles and having to deal with this and family too. i am with you in spirit. stay strong for yourself. the rest will be sorted out later.

i know when my Dad passed away the bull shit that went on was pathetic but do what you can while you can, but remember YOU. when all is said and done you can't let the small crap get to you. trust me i have times when i let crap get to me and once i think about it i know how silly it is, at the moment it is about you and dad.

keep me posted . you can call me any time if you need too. Fran
TonyaM
Member
14 years ago
Hi Ree,

Sorry to hear about your Dad.It must be hard for you to travel when you are not well and then to have to put up with family "stuff".Believe me we all have family memebers who annoy the hell out of us and you can't change them.You can only control your own reactions.If you can't avoid them then keep the conversations civil and generic.You are there for your dad and you need to keep calm for your own health.Save your strength for the important stuff. Hope the weather and the visit improves for you.

Tonya xx
TonyaM
Member
14 years ago
Hi Ree,

Sorry to hear about your Dad.It must be hard for you to travel when you are not well and then to have to put up with family "stuff".Believe me we all have family memebers who annoy the hell out of us and you can't change them.You can only control your own reactions.If you can't avoid them then keep the conversations civil and generic.You are there for your dad and you need to keep calm for your own health.Save your strength for the important stuff. Hope the weather and the visit improves for you.

Tonya xx
Leonie_Moore
Member
14 years ago
Once you have been through a life threatening experience ie bc you really do look at things differently. Take care. Don't be too hard on your family - if they don't know the real meaning of life you can't teach them- they will have to experience it themself. Take care of yourself and love your dad for as long as you can. My dad passed away nearly 15 years ago and I still have him close to me and call on him for strength. It was funny the night before this chemo, both my mum and dad came to me in my dreams and said that all was going to be fine. (My mum only passed 10 months ago) so I am pleased to dream that they are both re-united. Thinking of you and so glad that you are staying in contact online - we do care. XLeonie
Heidihoe
Member
14 years ago
What a lovely dream, they were looking after you!!!!

How beautiful.
Heidihoe
Member
14 years ago
How are you going now??

You are back at work, do you need that in your life to feel normal?

Been thinking of you.

H
Heidihoe
Member
13 years ago
Hi Ree

Thinking of you and hope you are doing ok!

It's been a long time since I got on here forgot password and always felt lost on this site/links,etc.

Would love to hear from you.

heidi
Heidihoe
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ree

Sending my thoughts your way, hoping that life has shone down on you with some love.

I made it to 10 years cancer free in August 2014! yeah!!!

Haven't had testing B1 & B2 done.

Visited 3rd cousin who has Breast Cancer in Townsville in May so glad I did, hope she makes it through.

It's good to get updates if you ever come back on the network, would love to hear how you are getting on.

Cheers Heidi.
Heidihoe
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ree

Sending my thoughts your way, hoping that life has shone down on you with some love.

I made it to 10 years cancer free in August 2014! yeah!!!

Haven't had testing B1 & B2 done.

Visited 3rd cousin who has Breast Cancer in Townsville in May so glad I did, hope she makes it through.

It's good to get updates if you ever come back on the network, would love to hear how you are getting on.

Cheers Heidi.
FranP
Member
11 years ago
Hi heidi . i am doing well it is 7 years for me 8 next may 15th.

so far doing okay , they have requested i have genetic testing i am still working all the fors and againsts through my head .

congrats on getting through to 10 years that is wonderful and i hope your 3rd cousin does okay. they only offer gentic testing to those with a very close family history. i have my grandmother and mother. so that is why the oncologist has requested it but there is allot to take into account.