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Got the shits with having no tits!
Hi hi there ladies so you may or may not know my story click on my name if you’d like to but those of you that do will know I had my left boob off June 2016 then took the other one off nov 2016 as a preventative as my gut told me to. So here’s my bitch for the day. I was at the local market on Sunday and saw this gorgeous casual all in one jumpsuit. It was light and had big loose pants and looked super comfy. I loved it so why am I whinging you Ask? It had cute little ties on the shoulders but it was sbit low at the back and the font but it was ok and I was given omg to buy it even put it in the bag with a cute little belt to tie it all together. Then the guy had trouble with having s eftpos machine and I was looking at it on the display and thought there’s no way I can wear this with no tits... I only wear the sports bras from kmart or the aah bras with my crocheted titties as the prosthetics are too hot and heavy and give me a rash and it just wasn’t going to sit right. It gives me the shits that I can’t fucking pick somethings I like sometimes and have to accept that this is how it is until I get my new tits through the fucking huge qld public waiting list and definately don’t have 25k to buy a set and I wouldn’t anyway if I did on principal. Been through enough for fucks sake with chemo and a double mastectomy. How the fuck can this procedure be elective. As you might know I went on the channel 10 Brisbane news to discuss this and I know change takes time but I just hope in the future that other women with bc don’t have to wait this long or have the option of other treatments so they don’t have to lose their boobs in the first place it’s bullshit. Mostly it doesn’t bother me but I also picked an outfit for Xmas and couldn’t wear that either for the same reason. Don’t get me wrong I have so much to be grateful for I just hate looking in the mirror and being reminded of this shit. It does also remind me that I survived this shit too. There was a time when I didn’t want a recon too but I just hate having my choices taken away..... rant over. Thanks for listening. Margie xxx
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- Dear oh dear! Not off to a good start on your countdown to new boobs! Hopefully things will improve and you'll work out a way to use strapless bras to give your clothing of choice a good look!
https://www.erilan.com.au/products/barbara-strapless?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=googlepla&variant=818084877&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIjLSZtpm72AIVWgoqCh2tpAIcEAYYASABEgIe-fD_BwE
As to why or how come the waiting list is so long, that I am sorry, I have no understanding of! I think most of us have read the story of the lady from Cairns waiting since 2011................
Many years ago we were on a waiting list that expired before we got the top so I get the frustration!
Take care - I only have one breast and clothes like to pull to one side. I buy a bigger looser fit and mostly for going out I have button down the front and usually a pocket. The pocket sort of masks the missing breast. Mind you I have worn just a tank top with no bra down the beach and not one person has ever noticed my missing breast.
- @onemargie do you have prosthetics? It annoys the crap out of me looking so hollowed out but I'm nervous about getting fitted. Have you done that ? You're in Brisbane right? Where did you go if you have? X
- @onemargie I'm so sorry that you're having a shitty time right now. You've been such a tremendous support to me. Now you need some hugs back. It's just not fair to have to put up with wearing clothes that don't make you feel great, and not being able to buy new things you fall in love with. I hope you discover something else beautiful very soon, that you'll be able to wear with joy. Fran x
- @primek
you have said exactly what I had been thinking...... I am flat and happy to be flat...
But you have a right to have reconstruction this century..... - Is there anyway you could get on a waiting list in another state? I mean I travel 500k to see my breast surgeon which is in SA. I'm in NSW. Justcwondering if there is a friend across the border than can help you out with an address to near the hospital. I stayed at a Cancer lodge before and after surgery at $60 a night.
- Reconstruction should be available to every woman who wants it, either in the public or private system and should be offered in a reasonable time.
I have felt better emotionally since having reconstruction mid last year. I had to wait for 2 years for medical reasons, but had access from the very early stages if I hadn’t had radiotherapy and other issues. This should be available to all women. I was able to have reconstruction and reduction with no gap payments in the private system. The waiting times for the public system and out of pocket expenses for the private system are problematic. The problem is the sky rocketing costs of providing health care in this country. I’m not sure what the solution is. - Arrgh cut my post off...
bigger than my boobs were and feels like a shelf and very unnatural. And the big ugly post op bra is difficult to cover.
Im happy with my decision, well happy as you can be... It's not my arms or legs right? No, just a huge part of my femininity, dignity, identity and self esteem.
I only had a breast reduction three years ago and was soooooo happy with my new breasts - Oh @onemargie, I hear you Girlfriend!!!! I'm only 5 weeks since my mastectomies and I am struggling with clothes big time. Like you, I see stuff, love it, try it on then hate it. I only have the soft forms at the mo (go for prosthetics and bra fittings in a few weeks) and the smallest ones are bigger than my boobs were
