Chicken pie

Hi Juli,

It is the lovely, simple gestures people do for you that you will remember! Also you will discover who your true friends are and the ones you should let go of too!

I am 51 too! But my kids are a bit younger....10 & 12 ...I have found great comfort using this forum - there are some pretty amazing ladies on here! All of us are united in being dealt with a BC diagnosis and its great to be able to chat with others who truly understand!

Sending you a cyber hug...Jen x

 

Thank you Deanne for taking the time to explain this to me. I hope you are having a nice day. Juli

... for getting onto the website so quickly and explaining the system to Juli.

As you know, I am not a fan of Facebook either !

Juli, if you want to say something more personal to one lady with whom you are in touch then you can do so by using the private message section.  This is what I do if someone asks me a delicate question.  You click on their name and their details come up on the left of the screen, then you click on 'send a message' (I think that is what it says) and you do the message.  You will notice that it does not appear in the usual blog and you don't get that automatic message notice.

I will do one to you so you can check it out !  I think once you do one, if the person replies to that the conversation does not show to all and sundry.

Please keep on the website as it is a great resource.

I am a very private person - hence not joining the local BC Support Groups.  Just be careful what you write in case someone you know can connect the dots.

Stay in touch.

Hugs from Summer  xxoo   :-)

These posts can be seen by anyone who looks at the network and commented on by anyone who is registered for BCNA. As your profile is set to private the only thing that anyone knows is that your profile name is Juli. If you wish to remain private then you leave your profile setting as it is now and no one will know anything except what you put in your posts and comments. These posts are not connected to and will not show up on your Facebook or anywhere else. Hope this sets you at ease. It is a wonderful place to come and safely connect with other people going through a similar experience. Deanne xxx

I think Summer is right when she says that there is often not as many people around on here on the weekends. I used to spend a lot of time on here at the start (while you are waiting for results, appointments and treatment plans etc) just clicking on people's profiles and reading their stories (not everyone makes these public) and posts. It gives you an idea of what might be ahead and how other people deal with things. I found this helped keep me busy and prepare me for what came next. Also gives you ideas about what to ask at appointments. I also put things into the search bar once I knew more about my situation and found lots of supportive info that way. We are all different but there will probably be some people who you identify more with than others, like Summer says. I found that it took a while for me to feel comfortable enough to share more with others but once I did open up more I had more people respond. Please let us know if there is anything we can help you with. Take care and best wishes. Deanne xxx

Hi Juli

Don't despair as I have found there is not as much activity on the site on weekends.  I am glad I replied so you don't feel alone.

If you are like me you always help others then are embarrassed when someone helps you (?).  Accept any offers of assistance as often it is the only way people can help you - and the medical side scares them too much !

Vent on this site when you are feeling low - and say it as it is for you at the time, no need to be 'politically correct'.  Ask as many questions as you need to - and you will get an assortment of answers.

Perhaps if you put your age, kids/partner and State someone out there may feel they should respond as they are more like you.  I am 62, married for 12 years and in rural Victoria so you may not 'connect' with me as much as others.  Once you know more about the type of cancer and your specific treatment your post may attract more responses.

I often reply to ladies 'personally' rather than 'publicly' as they often ask quite personal questions and I can give them answers without others reading their issues.  I am on quite often throughout the day as I use my computer to 'pace'  myself due to other medical conditions as well as our common one.

Keep checking the site.  Ask me questions if it will help you get through today.

Summer  :-)

Thank you summer. I was extremely thankful to my dear neighbour. There was a micro second where I felt awkward, but then I was able to put my self back and just accept the chicken pie, with much greatfulness. As my neighbour deserves. I do not know if there will be more times when I am feeling so low as I go on this journey. Thank you summer for taking the time it reply to my post, as I am feeling rather lost and have not had much response from this site so far. I think I am not doing something correct. Juli

Hi Juli

Yes, it is the little things like chicken pie on your arrival home that make a huge difference during such a stressful tiem in our lives.

Your neighbour must be a treasure to not only think it but to take the time to make the pie and bring it over.

You must also be a great neighbour or she would not have done that for you !

Good luck in the weeks ahead, hoping everything settles down for you.

Regards

Summer  :-)