Where"s The Love

Ha! I just realised I was post op when I wrote this!  May have been a leetle anaesthetised still!!!

God Narelle, I can't even imagine how you are facing this without the support of friends and family. My husband, children and friends are what got me throught. I was called back after a routine mammogram in November, diagnosed in early Decmeber, booked in to a surgeon two weeks later and had left breast removed on 6th jan, followed by a second op three weeks later to deal with a seroma, and I have just last week finished 5 weeks radiation. It was all so sudden I think I am still in shock and wondering what the hell happened to me. To think of having to dwell on the issue for so long - I don;t know how I would have coped. I hope your husband has become more supportive, mine suprised me - perhaps yours will too. I wish you well with your op and your results.

Cheers, Vicki

Hi Narelle

I think our family and friends don't know how to react a lot of the time.  They don't want to be in our faces and therefore may be giving you space.  I was diagnosed 3 months ago and just started chemo.  I also believe that because we still look well, people think we are doing just fine, when it is mentally that breast cancer initially impacts on you. Don't be afraid to ask them for a catch up and while it doesn't seem fair, it might just need you reaching out for your friends to be there for you.

I saw a surgeon 2 weeks after diagnosis but it still took 5 weeks for surgery.  Try to stay positive.  Feel free to add me as a contact or private message me.

Tammy x

Hi Narelle,

I know how you feel , i have just finished my last chemo treatment on monday and since my surgery back in dec 11 , my 2 really good freinds have only come to see me once after my mastectomy  and not at all during my chemo which has been really hard, it would have been nice to have some company when i was feeling down and unwell but you know its all always me that everyone calls when they have a problem and yes I am the strong one as i am always told.I am so dissapointed in them , yes we all have familys and work but when i see them on facebook with plenty of time for other outings it upsets me ,yes we do live 1and half hours away from each other by car, but we have always seen each other on a regular basis.

I have actually had more support from people that i am less close too ! sometimes in life you need to rethink who your real  freinds are, sorry hope i am not sounding to negative it is my third day after chemo .

take care xxx

So sorry to hear that family and friends aren't giving you the support you need. Perhaps they see you as still fit and healthy.The seriousness of it all may sink in when they see you after your op.It's terrible that you've had to wait so long for your surgery.It's the waiting and the unknown that does your head in with this bc journey.Blog back here for support-you won't feel so alone.We are either going through treatments or have been through it. I am just 2 years on now from my bc diagnosis(2nd one)or 9yrs on from my first.It's great to have family support but your pink sisters here truly understand what you are going through.Take care and keep in touch with us.

                                      Tonya xx

So sorry to hear that family and friends aren't giving you the support you need. Perhaps they see you as still fit and healthy.The seriousness of it all may sink in when they see you after your op.It's terrible that you've had to wait so long for your surgery.It's the waiting and the unknown that does your head in with this bc journey.Blog back here for support-you won't feel so alone.We are either going through treatments or have been through it. I am just 2 years on now from my bc diagnosis(2nd one)or 9yrs on from my first.It's great to have family support but your pink sisters here truly understand what you are going through.Take care and keep in touch with us.

                                      Tonya xx