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Bearteggie's avatar
12 years ago

Squeaky Wheel

Today, I couldn't stand my anxiety of waiting any longer for word from the hospital regarding when I will be seeing the oncologist to discuss my treatment plan and what all my results mean.

I have been a basket case all morning so I called one of my colleagues at work and where my GP works and told her what was going on. She very kindly offered to ring the oncology department and ask where they are up to. 

Within minutes she was back on the phone to me telling me that they had received  my referral from the multidiscplinary team on 20/12 and that this week they will triage my case and send me my letter of appointment.  Hooray!

My colleague also suggested to them that they make contact with me  asap to reassure me and they apparently said they would.  She also told them that I was one of their staff members and could they please consider hurrying things a long a little. 

If I don't hear from them tomorrow afternoon, she will pass my situation on to my GP to follow up.

I find it really strange that I agonised so much over ringing the Breast Care Nurse and my surgery.  Being a squeeky will is not in my nature and yet when I am in my role as receptionist at work I do it for our patients all the time with no hesitation.

So ladies, don't suffer the anxiety more than is already necessary.  Ask questions until you are fully satisfied or understand the system.  Now that I know the oncology department only got the referral on the 20th instead of on the 12th as advised by my BC nurse my anxiety has eased.

I am now absolutely exhausted but relieved that I haven't been forgotten.

Joy

 

18 Replies

  • Thank you Hazel.  Yes, I feel much less anxious now although very tired.  It is a lessen definitely learned today.  If we speak up about our concerns assertively we can take back a little more control of our lives.  Big hugs back to you Hazel.

    Love

    Joy xx

     

  • Thank you Robyn.   Now I feel like I can enjoy Christmas.  This morning I was wondering how I was going to get through it.  Pretending to be happy and ok when I am teatering on the edge.  So glad I plucked up the courage instead of worrying about being a nuisance.

    Love

    Joy xx

  • Thank you Deanne.  I felt it was a long time tooespecially as the Breast Care Nurse had told me on the 3/12 that they would send a letter after the multidisplinary meeting on the 5th.  I understood why that didn't happen due to a  pending result but they were to meet again on the 12/12.

    I think something must have gone wrong as the referral being received on the 20th was the day after I called my Breast Care Nurse to chase it up.

    Oh well, the wheels are turning again now and I trust and hope that I will regain confidence in the hospital system.

    Big hugs to you too.

    Joy xx

  • Hope your anxiety has eased this afternoon, I know exactly how it is. I don't mean to hark on about it, but I had that anxiety attack at the hospital because I was scared of comfronting the receptionist nurse and asking why I was waiting so long. It's not in my nature to be a squeaky wheel either. If I had just been more assertive, I would not have fallen in a heap. I'm glad you should have your plan soon, try to relax and I'm sending big hugs to you, hope it helps,

    Hazel xx

  • Perseverance pays! Good on you.I am sure you will enjoy Xmas more,now that you have some peace of mind.xoxo Robyn
  • I'm glad you have taken steps to hustle things along. The waiting is the worst part of this ordeal and we all just want to deal with the cancer and get on with our lives. A month does seem a long time from your op to the oncologist receiving the referral. Hopefully your squeaky wheel approach will soon have things rolling along at full steam for you. Sending you a reassuring hug. Deanne xo
  • I'm glad you have taken steps to hustle things along. The waiting is the worst part of this ordeal and we all just want to deal with the cancer and get on with our lives. A month does seem a long time from your op to the oncologist receiving the referral. Hopefully your squeaky wheel approach will soon have things rolling along at full steam for you. Sending you a reassuring hug. Deanne xo