River of tears

Hi Tonya, thank you so much for your post , it meant more than you will know..... this has been a real eye opener for me. Sad to think but happy that there is so much support out there. I hope you are travelling ok Cheers Hilary

Thanks Hillary that makes me feel better about the whole thing.Hope you are happier today.And yes its a great place to chat and get advice xxx

thank you , I know that you get it ! this has been like a life line to me . Its true what they say this truly is a sister hood . 

 I was diagnosed on the 10th March 2011.  I understand where your coming from. I was such a mess very depressed and still suffer with anxiety. I am seeing a counsler. I was crying all the time , so emotional. I am better than I was  but still have the outbursts at the wrong times. Went to see my plastic surgeon on Monday about reconstruction and having the other breast off, well I just started  to cry , The Dr must have thought I was a real nutter.

I had a mastectomy in March and also had a hysterectomy in July , same reason as you. I am on Femara.

I get so angry when people tell me to stay positive.

When I am down I  get on and put how I am feeling really helps. Read some of my blogsand you will not feel like your alone.

I am on facebook Debra-Howard Cork. My e-mail is deb.how@bigpond.com jf you want you can e-mail me.

Big hugs Deb xxxxxxxxxxxxx

You sure have had alot done to you in the last 8 months Hilary.3 surgeries, chemo,radiation and now hercepton,no wonder you are teary.You also have to adjust to a new self image and digest the fact that you've just had cancer.Cry all you want.This is a great site to vent or get support cos we all know what you've been through.After my chemo,(last August 2010)I started on Tamoxifen and I became quite depressed-don't know if it was the aftermath,being bald or drug side effects.Anyway,my oncologist put me on a very low dose antidepressant(endep 10mg)and it helped with hot flushes,sleep and mood. It's hard to be positive all the time and it doesn't hurt to wallow in it for awhile. Friends mean well but will sometimes say the most annoying things.Sounds like you have a wonderful husband and in the middle of the night when ,your fears rise up, you have someone to hold you and tell you it will be ok.I had my first bout of breast cancer in 2003 and from my experience,it took me almost 2years to feel confident again,that I might live afterall.Give yourself time and take time out for yourself.

                            Tonya xx

Hi Julia, yes I had my ovaries out 3 weeks  ago. My oncologist told me that having them out cut the chances of re-occurence by about %50 . As I was pre menopause they wanted to strip me of as much oestrogen as possible. I am now also on Arimidex for 5 years. Cheers Hilary

Hello,

Just wondering why you have ovaries out?    my doctor has not mentioned this to me.

Thanks,

Julia

Hello,

Just wondering why you have ovaries out?    my doctor has not mentioned this to me.

Thanks,

Julia

Hi, I was terribly worried about having my overies out, I think it was because I was soooo over having my body prodded !! I had keyhole surgery and it was fine , much relief. I was in hospital for 2 days only because my blood pressure was low and wouldnt come up. Pain was mimimal I just took panadol for a couple of days. A little itching where the stitches were but on the whole it went well. Keep in touch and let me know how you go. Isnt this a great place to chat. Cheers Hilary