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Melhay
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9 years ago

Pathology Results - Mixed Emotions

Had my post surgery follow up yesterday
The news was mostly positive regarding the pathology of this new primary invasive cancer tumour: low grade, stage 1, clear margins, Hormone +, lymph nodes clear - hooray!!!

The down side was the pathology also showed high grade DCIS throughout the whole specimen - which means more surgery. I'm only small breasted so the prospect of losing more breast tissue from that breast will no doubt mean a change in cup size!

Surgeon said given the extent, chances of clear margins for re-excision of the DCIS  is 50%. Must admit this statistic scares me as it means there's only a 50% chance I will be able to keep my breast this time. 

Hindsight can be so frustrating sometimes. Had I known this would happen 13mths ago when I was going through breast cancer treatment for Invasive cancer in my other breast (lumpectomy & Radiation)  I would have opted for a double mastectomy rather than breast conserving surgery. 

The timing also just sucks   -  we've sold our house & are packing up to move from East Maitland to Port Macquarie in a couple of weeks. So I'm trying to squeeze this latest surgery in just before the move. 

The stress of our impending move alone has also already had a big impact on my husband & 2 teens. My husband is displaying symptoms of anxiety & or depression (he lives & works in Port Macquarie during the week & comes home on weekends) & my daughters chronic mental health issues have resurfaced (she self harms - is under the care of child & adolescent mental health service). My son & daughter are also not looking forward to changing schools & making new friends. 

Still, I guess all I can do is take one step at a time & just hope this new surgery is successful. 

  • Will be thinking of you on Monday!  Things are working out already - keep in touch with your surgery and your move. xx
  • Might do your daughter the world of good with a fresh start at a new school. The son might be able to get some part time work at the new place and some money of his own for a change. Hubby should be ecstatic at no more driving to and fro. Just pointing out the good things in case you have lost sight of that while your medical life is in a turmoil. A tip from someone who knows about moving and breast cancer, pack things you want in smaller boxes as you will have trouble lifting them around to unpack after surgery. Another tip, put all the things you don't immediately want together and all the things you will want in another lot of boxes. By all means, throw a lot of stuff away but don't be too heavy handed.
  • That's great news. Fingers and toes crossed for you.x
  • Thanks for your supportive words Mel, Michelle, Primek xx

    Got the call yesterday my surgeon has offered to put me onto to his Monday surgery list (next week!) rather than the original surgery date of the 23rd (which is moving day for us). Feeling very lucky to have such an understanding surgeon & professional treatment team. 

    Have decided to just keep an open mind about the re-excision rather than worry about the prospect of it not being successful - one step at a time. Besides, I really need to focus on organizing the move - still so much to do!
  • Mel,
    Sounds like youve had some good results, and I understand what youre saying, I do think though, you made the best and right decisions for yourself at the time you had to. Nobody knows as our journeys progress and what comes up what would have been better. I ve had 2 major lumpectomies and my breasts are different cup sizes so its annoying. I dont regret however the breast conserving..I now am headed for mastectomy preventative, but again, only one not two...as Ive never had problems with the right, recurrence in the left only. I figure face that if it ever happened. 

    Life challenges you in all ways even when you are already going through so much!!!! Im a single parent of 2 teens and last year was diagnosed with a recurrence and faced Chemo...amidst that my daughter had been diagnosed with Depression/anxiety was a dark time and getting through VCE. Proud to say I got through and I got her through too...stay strong...everything works out in the end, pull tight to your loved ones.
    Hugs Melinda 
  • Timing is never perfect. But I guess getting people support whilst you go through this is imperitive. Yeah on 1st result but can understand your frustration on the second. Wish you well on your journey.
  • That is really hard - the timing is awful for you.  I hope you can get your surgery quickly  (it is even more important than the move) and that things flow on from there.  Yes, one step at a time, one day at a time - even one hour at a time.  You will get through this.  Your family will cope because they must. Remember the difference between a problem and an inconvenience - cancer is a problem, everything else is an inconvenience!  Stay in touch.  Big hug.  xx Michelle