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Kym_G
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7 years ago

Husband and chores

so here I sit after having my two ops (first lumpectomy and five nodes) then (all nodes as cancer spread) my chemo starts Tuesday and I have told the family, husband, daughter 20, her fiance 22, and younger daughter 16, that I don’t want to be worried about the kitchen at the moment and could they organise everything from buying groceries to cooking and cleaning.  I have been met with resistance from husband as he believes I should be able to get back in the kitchen and do things within a few days and that I just can’t say no I’m not going to do it!  Tell me what can I expect and can I get back in there? How many days do you feel sick for? I’m having the 21 day cycle chemo first.. can’t remember the name
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  • Zoffiel's avatar
    Zoffiel
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    7 years ago
    Bad luck, hubby, the maid is broken.

    If you were his car, tractor, bike etc he'd understand that in order for you  to work properly, he'd have to spend time and money on you. If he had to send machinery off to the dealership for a rebuild, he'd do it. Deeply inconvenient as that may be for him.

    Take to your bed. Don't participate. If these people are worth you, they will pitch in. Kym, this is all about you at the moment. Things will get worse before they get better, do not set yourself up to fail by allowing unrealistic time frames or expectations becoming something you feel you need to live up to. Marg xxx
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    Kiwi_Angel
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    7 years ago
    OMG!!  u will need all the support u can get. Chemo, even if u get through it well is really tough and they need to be able to support u and look after u. U have cancer and u are the one that is having to go through chemo. As well as support round the house u will need emotional support. Just remember we are all here for u xoxox