Hi all I am new to this and was not even sure I wanted to post. Here goes I have read alot of the posts on here and they are all so positive. How do you get there I am having a mastectomy tomorrow and am horrified about it. I can not get the feeling of this being a mutilation of my body out of my head. I had even considered just not having it and rolling the dice. Any suggetions on how to get to that place where you are comfortable with this would be great.
Erin.. as Ann said above 'take it one day at a time'... it does get better.. I was diagnosed at the beginning of April. It's taken a while but most days I feel optimistic for the future but I still have times when I just cannot stop crying... if you haven't done so already order the My Journey Kit.. it helps. I also found talking to the Cancer Counselling Service helpfull.. Stay away from Dr Google! instead write your questions down and ask your doctor.
Take care
love and hugs
Trina
Thanks annz53.I just feel that all my days are dark at the moment. I am single so I find it is very easy to find that place when I am alone. My mum and especially my sister has a been a gold mine of support. I am 42 and some times just find it hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I work in a pub in a small town so going back to work after surgery scares the hell outta me. Actually leaving the house after surgery scares the hell outta me. I have only told my direct family at this stage. I think I felt that if I tell any more people it will become to real. I don't know I guess it can't get any more real than today.
Hi Erin, "One Day at a Time", with Jesus and supporting family, friends & church family, is how I get through. I don't think I will ever be comfortable with having to go through this journey but I am a Wife, Mother & Grandma and want to be around for as long as I can be so I am doing what I have to.
I can't change my diagnosis but I can choose my attitude. Believe me, some days I have what I call a "Pity Party" and there will be other days I actually forget I am on this road and have a good day. I find often I come across as positive but actually sometimes I don't feel positive. So don't be too hard on yourself.
You will get there as well. This network is a good place to come to 'cos we all understand mood swings and some people are ahead of us on this journey, others will be where we are and then, unfortunately, there is always the Newbie. Don't be afraid to say it like you feel it if you want to, I would not take offence and I don't think the other pink ladies would.
I will be thinking of and praying for you as you have your surgery and wait for your results. I find the waiting difficult 'cos my mind races ahead which is not good hence I am trying to live "one day at a time". Ann
Hi Erin, "One Day at a Time", with Jesus and supporting family, friends & church family, is how I get through. I don't think I will ever be comfortable with having to go through this journey but I am a Wife, Mother & Grandma and want to be around for as long as I can be so I am doing what I have to.
I can't change my diagnosis but I can choose my attitude. Believe me, some days I have what I call a "Pity Party" and there will be other days I actually forget I am on this road and have a good day. I find often I come across as positive but actually sometimes I don't feel positive. So don't be too hard on yourself.
You will get there as well. This network is a good place to come to 'cos we all understand mood swings and some people are ahead of us on this journey, others will be where we are and then, unfortunately, there is always the Newbie. Don't be afraid to say it like you feel it if you want to, I would not take offence and I don't think the other pink ladies would.
I will be thinking of and praying for you as you have your surgery and wait for your results. I find the waiting difficult 'cos my mind races ahead which is not good hence I am trying to live "one day at a time". Ann
