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Susan_Schuback
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14 years ago

early menapause :-(

Hello Pink Sisters.......

I am in desperate need of some helpfull advise if anyone has it for me, he goes........  Most of you know my story & like the rest of you have had 4 rounds of taxatere chemo & finished on October 6th....now I am showing huge signs of going through early menapause....I am having a lot of trouble with my mood swings a being a down & out bitch to my poor hubby who only gets 2 weeks home & then back off shore for 2 weeks...I nearly tore his head off when he was home, he left to go back today poor thing....but my emotions are all over the place & I am to have diep op next month & I don't know how I will cope with the emotional mood swings so if any one out there has any advice that has worked for them please let me know.  Oh & even though I am triple neg bc I refuse to take anything artificial like HRT!    HELP.............

Brightest Blessings to you all,  Susan xxx

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    Susan_Schuback
    Member
    14 years ago

    Thanks Ladies,

    My operation date is set for the 12-12 so I'll be well out of action for christmas this year,  I don't know how my family of 8 will suffer the deprivation of my being able to cook xmas dinner %-S  Luckily for me my 2 eldest girls are able to cook, but I might have to stand on the side lines and shoot off instructions on how to do the cooking properly though!  hahaha..........

    Brightest Blessings,  Susan  xxx

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    Susan_Schuback
    Member
    14 years ago

    Thanks Ladies,

    My operation date is set for the 12-12 so I'll be well out of action for christmas this year,  I don't know how my family of 8 will suffer the deprivation of my being able to cook xmas dinner %-S  Luckily for me my 2 eldest girls are able to cook, but I might have to stand on the side lines and shoot off instructions on how to do the cooking properly though!  hahaha..........

    Brightest Blessings,  Susan  xxx

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    Al
    Member
    14 years ago

    Hi Susan,

    I haven't been through this yet but all I can say is try and get some help from your oncologist. There is nothing worse than feeling out of control. BC will do that!! I've had the odd hot flush but I've sure this is the calm before the storm.

    Some great advice here too from these lovely ladies.

    Hang in there! Thinking of you and I'm sure you will have things sorted in no time.

    Love Alison xx

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    Al
    Member
    14 years ago

    Hi Susan,

    I haven't been through this yet but all I can say is try and get some help from your oncologist. There is nothing worse than feeling out of control. BC will do that!! I've had the odd hot flush but I've sure this is the calm before the storm.

    Some great advice here too from these lovely ladies.

    Hang in there! Thinking of you and I'm sure you will have things sorted in no time.

    Love Alison xx

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    Leonie_Moore
    Member
    14 years ago

    Just when you think you have it "all under control" things start to crack.  You are not alone. Not sure how I overcome it but I know I was "there".  Tough b..... some would say but underneath I am just as soft and vunerable as everyone.  I really think I have "survived" the dreaded mood swings and lack of sleep because of meditation.  I was lucky enough to participate in the Cancer Council's Mindfulness course.  I learnt so much from this course and was totally dedicated to the task of "staying with it".  This meant religiously meditating each day.  Also as Maria says rest plays a huge part - this is resting of the mind mostly.  Stillness in mind and body is very healing.  Have you sat still today and "dropped" all thoughts of "doing" and just "listened" to what your body is doing??  Sounds hard but it becomes so easy and so worthwhile.  I hope you can have this same opportunity that I was able to complete and be able to achieve invaluable learning. Something to think about and check out. XLeonie

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    TonyaM
    Member
    14 years ago

    After I finished chemo last year,I started on Tamoxifen and my emotions were all over the shop.One minute I'd be depressed ,crying and the next I'd be irritable,cranky with poor hubby.I had bad hot flushes and couldn't sleep so went on a small dose antidepressant called Endep(10mg)and that really helped -no apparent side effects.Meditation and a support group or counselling may help too.Ask your doc about what you can have because there are options.

                                                Tonya xx