Hi Miss Lizzie,
Yes it is a shock and so much info to take in.I had nearly the same diagnosis as you, I had a small 2cm Ductual Tumor that had infiltrated the duct at 9 Oclock ,I(I always laugh at that description ) and small insitu carcenoma outside (which means it had just started but hadn't infiltrated the duct ,apparently not one to worry about.) My lumpectomy scar looks great,As I'm really fond of my boobs my surgeon suggested he move some fat around so I wouldn't beleft with a dent in my breast,It does look great.I felt so well during post opp I only took 2 weeks off work. 30 days Radiation plus 4 boosts and my skin only had a slight rash , Underarm a bit sore due to friction.I used the Solugel, and Calendula by Herbal Creams.I have Used Bio Oil 2 x daily since finishing Rads 2 months ago and both scars have almost faded to nothing.I have been on Arimidex for 3 months with no Side effects.9Lots of Calcium ,Vit D and Krill Oil) I decided early on not to be defined by this diagnosis.I have treated it as I would any other illness,now my treatment is finished (apart from the hormones and yearly checkups when I'll give it 24hrs thought Lol )I take my meds and just forget about it,I have a life to live.!!
Best of Luck