What to do..

All good advice from everyone. On the elderly mother front, my mother was 87 and in a nursing home when I was diagnosed.  I probably wouldn’t have told her either but my treatment included chemo and losing my hair. My mother was physically frail but her mind was perfectly sharp and I knew she would twig. I talked with the staff and they encouraged me to tell her, given I was looking and sounding fine, and let her be a part of it. You know your mother best but mine had a new lease of life, to support me in whatever way she could, to get well. Best wishes.